(Closed) So tired of waiting for everything

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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573 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

It will go by SO QUICKLY! We got engaged in November and won’t be getting married until April 2013. I see it two ways: first, I have plenty of time to ENJOY being engaged without planning/spending/dealing with drama surrounding who to invite, who to not invite, etc. Second: like you mentioned, we need to save up. We have PLENTY of time to do so and won’t have to go into debt for the wedding.

Post # 4
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7609 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I wanted to be married, like, yesterday so I hear ya.  It goes by so quickly when you’re planning, though!  I know it sounds lame, but seriously try to enjoy the time you have with him (and your family and your friends) now.  There will always be something just around the corner that you want, but you don’t want to wish your life away.  I have a hard time taking my own advice sometimes, but I keep reminding myself to enjoy the “now”!

Post # 6
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1314 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Waiting is so HARD! I know it. I was with my Fiance for 5.5 years before we got engaged and we are a little over halfway through a 3 year engagement. I am the least patient person you’ll ever meet, I like things to happen NOW. The thing that has gotten me through has been “soft” wedding planning. Looking for inspiration, reading blogs for ideas, saving things I like. Of course, Weddingbee has been a great help because there are Bees of all kinds here and I feel like I fit with the long term relationship and long term engagement Bees. It’s hard to ignore the, why are you waiting so long, why doesn’t he want to get married sooner comments but venting on here to people that relate makes it so much easier!

Post # 7
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79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I just wanted to chime in and say that the time will definitely fly by!  I am currently in the middle of a two year enagement and I honestly cannot believe we have already been engaged almost a year!  When we first got engaged I thought two years seemed like such a like time to wait, but now I have loved being able to just enjoy being engaged and slowly look at venues without feeling any pressure.  We currently have our venue and church booked and I have loved gathering inspiration pictures and getting ideas so I can have everything just the way I want it. Hang in there, it will definitely go by fast! 

Post # 8
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65 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Hang in there. My sister gave me the best advice ever and I’m so glad she said it early on in my engagement because its something I have to keep reminding myself of.

ENJOY THE JOURNEY!

My Fiance and I had a long engagement, 14 months. It really is a great time in your life and you should enjoy every min of it. While it seems like its just dragging on, think of all the good things that come from a long engagement:

1. More time to save = more extravagant wedding!

2. More time to be the “center of attention!” 🙂

3. More time to plan means you get first pick at your venue, or caterer, your DJ etc.

There are a lot of good things about a long engagement. I Know its hard, but keep your head up, think about all the pluses, and enjoy the ride!

Post # 9
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1599 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

you are not alone! My fiance and I dated for three and a half years before he proposed, and then we waited 9 months just to set a date! Talk about frustrating! We actually got into a HUGE argument because our “timelines” didn’t match up. I actually almost gave the ring back.

But long story short, I was also VERY tired of waiting for things to happen with us. None of the circumstances were either one of our faults, though. We had unexpected deaths in the family, unexpected job loss, unexpecting sickness, unexpected money issues, etc, etc, so we were FORCED to wait. Maybe the fact that these circumstances were out of our control is what made me so frustrated in the first place, but literally as soon as that ring was on my finger, for some reason I just expected everything to be perfect and happen 123.

But it didn’t. We are still taking our time, and our wedding date is “tentatively” set for September 2013 … which still feels like a LOOOONG time.

But we want to make sure we have everything under control — our jobs, finances, a place to live, etc.

It is really hard waiting sometimes because most of our friends are getting engaged, married, buying houses, and having babies SO FAST. Sometimes I get jealous. Other times I’m happy we’re waiting because it’ll mean so much more. And think of it this way — you won’t have to worry about last minute issues or having way too much to do in such little time. In fact, if you plan little by little (like we are) you will probably be able to take breaks from planning, which can definitely help with stress!

Plus you will have more time to save money, and just more time in general to “browse” for vendors, get your dress altered, etc.

Just enjoy the planning and engagement as much as you can and try to be glad that you’ll have longer to do it than most people.

I was one of those girls who thought, “Ugh 2013 is SOOOO far away” and “OMG it took us NINE MONTHS to set a date!” but the time has gone SO fast already! In fact I can’t believe it’s been almost a year since we’ve gotten engaged. Looking back, I’m actually glad things have moved slowly!

Just concentrate on the positives and know you’re not alone. : ) 

Post # 10
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3799 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We got engaged Feb ’11 and didn’t set a date until October ’11. We planned on a ‘longer’ engagement and I didn’t start really planning until November. So it took us almost a year to get going on our wedding plans and now 6 months out I’m looking at the calendar saying “oh crap!”.

Moral of the story: time goes fast. Once you start planning, working on DIY if you choose, etc. it will be here before you know it.

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