(Closed) So tired of waiting. How much longer should I wait?

posted 4 years ago in Waiting
Post # 76
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Helper bee

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darkwater67 :  I think the people saying those things have experience with it. They probably thought they knew their guy also and believed him when he said he would and he never did. Of course that’s not true in every situation, but I think they have in their mind they are doing her a favor by telling her that so she could avoid the heartbreak they experienced. 

Post # 77
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Helper bee

Keep us posted on what happens! 

Post # 78
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Bumble bee

See you in July when he hasn’t proposed (again). 

Post # 79
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2019

Putting a time table on a relationship is asking for failure. If you live in expectations you WILL be living a life of let down and resentment. Do you really want him to pop the ring on a major holiday? If the relationship goes sour you’ll have a nice yearly reminder of what once was.  

Post # 80
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Helper bee

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wastedtalent93 :  what so you are saying she should go on willy nilly without a timeline for marriage? I would argue that not putting a timetable on a relationship like this (ie. unmarried, with child, no job, totally financially dependent on boyfriend) is asking for disaster. She either needs to get married or get a job ASAP.

Post # 81
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Any updates?

Post # 82
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2016

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blondelollipop3 :  From a guy’s perspective, a child and owning a home together (assuming it’s under both your names?) is probably a bigger commitment than having something on paper. Also, he might feel pressured because men wants to be romantic too so why not let him? Let him be romantic in his own way in his own time. 

Post # 83
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Newbee

I hope that you hold him to the timeline that he gave you. But honestly it seems like you’re going to stay whether he proposes or not. If you can make yourself okay with the fact that you may be a forever gf and baby mama, then let it be, but if not? leave.

Post # 85
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

You have your answer in your original post – July! If he doesn’t propose to you by your birthday, then he is definitely a liar and you should leave him. Period.

Post # 86
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Bumble bee

You HAVE to get a job.  This man has dated you for 5 years with no sign of marrying you.. of course he’s not!  In the back of his mind, he’s like “Where’s she going to go?”  Tell him since you don’t see a proposal coming, you need to start thinking about YOUR future and your DAUGHTER’S future.  Go out and get a job right now.  

Then focus on your career for awhile – you are only 25, you have time to still be “young and married”.  If he hasn’t proposed by, say, 27 or at the max 28, get out and you’ll have your great job to thank for your freedom.

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