Post # 1
I just need a moment to vent my frustrations.
I am so effing tired of this waiting nonsense! Just incase you haven’t read my older posts I’ll give a (super) brief background. My SO and I have been together for 3.5 years, at 11 months together we moved across the country together so that I could go to my dream university program. Since then its been an amazing jounrey together and over the years we’re talked alot about our future, and we know what we are going to be together for the long haul. On our third anniversary, I had a bit of a break down after there was no proposal. A few days after we sat down and had a good talk about my timeline. We essentially decided (read: I decided and he agreed) that he had a year to pop the question, or I was allow to do it after that.
Fast forward to now (six months later…) we talk about our future pretty regularly, and although I’m pretty sure my ring isn’t bought yet it is now safe to talk about (we call it my sparkley lol) but I’m so damn tired of waiting for it to happen. I don’t care about being engaged, what I REALLY want is to be married. I want to skip this whole waiting garbage. I feel like I’ve been waiting for so long that I won’t enjoy it. I’ve had two friends now that have met and married since my SO and I have been together, and it’s just not fair! Heck I’d elope tomorrow if my family wouldn’t disown me.
Anyways, I finish my degree in 5 weeks, I’ve started applying for jobs in my feild, but I’m finding it so hard to be excited for the next phase of my life without feeling hurt that I’m not yet engaged, or married.
I realize I sound really whiney, but I just needed to get this all out, to othe bees who understand how terrible waiting can be. Thanks al for listening.
Post # 3
I know the feeling! I am hating the waiting too! And you do not sound whiney just fed up!
Post # 4
I was in the same boat last year, but Fiance and I have been together almost 7 years! (We waited so long because of finances)
I hate to tell you this, but the best thing for you to do is to quit talking about it with him. The more it is brought up, the less likely it will happen anytime soon. Most guys want it to be a genuine surprise and if you keep discussing it, he knows it is on your mind and you are expecting it.
By The Way…last May at a friend’s wedding (who also met her now husband and married since me and Fiance have been together) Fiance mentioned to a friend that we’d be engaged by the end of the year. I overheard it and asked him about it. We talked about it constantly for a while…to the point where he was starting to get annoyed with talking about it.
Once I found the Bee, and the Shut-it-up pact, I quit talking about it. About a month later HE started showing me rings online and took me to look at rings so he could see what style I liked. After that trip, he never mentioned anything about rings again. When December rolled around I was a mess because I was convinced that he never bought a ring and that by the beginning of December there was no way he’d be able to propose before the end of the year like he said. Little did I know that most of my friends knew it was coming, and cleverly hinted at New Years Eve to get me to shut-up venting to them about it.
On December 15th, not New Year’s!, he proposed.
Hang in there girl…if your SO has the finances/credit to get your ring, it’ll come soon!
Post # 5
I totally hear you! Waiting sucks. I’m soooo tired of seeing others get engaged too. especially since we’ve been together longer than all of them.
I’m really hoping he does it on our 6th anniversary this June. I have my doubts, but we made plans to go to my cottage for the weekend and he insisted we stay up for our actual day (it would be on the monday). He was talking about how it’s important to spend the day up there. Also. yesterday, he told me 2 weeks ago he already booked the day off of work! This guy is the type that I have to remind to book his days off when we have vacation planned and remind him of the dates were going like 5 times. lol
*crosses fingers for us*
Post # 6
@memo @GamerGirl I know watiing has to be hard for you! However, have eithe rof you foudn soemthing to calm your nerves while you wait? My guilty pleasure is this site so far, lol but the ultimate thing keeping me calm is my Karate class. How odd, right?
What I’ve learned is that when you keep busy and focus more of your time on something that is about improving yourself alone, your SO will definitely notice and will want to try to plan more for an engagement.
I am not yet engaged. But not only has my guy shopped for my ring *I found out secretly* since I have only focused so hard on my Karate class, I have plenty of male friends who have been and are; and this is the one thing they point out to me. Most of them proposed to their woman because she took a trip without him and he thought he was going to lose one of the best things that ever happened to him.
Men know when you want to get married. They pick up on all kinds of signs. Throw him off a bit by focusing more on some new hobby or a hanging with family more often. Really, truly try to appreciate the pre-engagement moments with him. These days go by fast.
It will all be worth it. Good luck ladies!
Post # 7
I can totally relate waiting sucks!