(Closed) So, to all you wives…anyone have advice for those headed down the isle?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Make sure there aren’t any leaks in your boat.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Communication is the absolute key. If you can’t have frank and serious discussions with one another, you’re on a sinking ship. I would recommend pre-marital counseling for couples.

Also, you have to plan “date nights” – either by making fancy dinners at home, or going out to a movie, it doesn’t matter. But you need to continue making your marriage a priority.

And, from our own experience, if you can wait a few years to have children, have the first few years just for the two of you. We know several couples married around the time we were who now have children, and they seem much more stressed over just about everything. This isn’t to say the blessing of children is in any way a “curse” but I think it is very important that your marriage has a solid foundation before you add the stress of parenthood.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Remeber to always have fun. No matter how stressful things get,take a few minutes every day to just joke around and have a laugh. My Darling Husband and I are always pulling funny pranks on each other,telling jokes or pulling silly faces and it always makes me feel closer to him when were both laughing.

 

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

My Father in law’s speech highlighted two important pieces of advice:  Begin & End every day with the words “I love you.”  Never go to bed angry. 🙂

And then of course, enjoy your wedding day.  When the going gets rough in your marriage, go back to the photos of your wedding day – they will help remind you why you are together and that you love one another. 🙂

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m still newly married, so I can’t pretend to have “years of wisdom”, but here’s what I got so far:

Communication is absolutely key. It sounds cliche but its true. It’s important to discuss expectations for each other. The majority of our fights have come from assumptions regarding expectations. It’s all about compremising without giving up the things that are most important to you.

Post # 8
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Honey bee

Agree with PPs about communication. It over arcs everything

Be clear about what you expect out of each other in terms of chores/household duties, showing love.

Be clear about what you expect out of your future. Vacations, children, retirement, career plans. And have a plan to get there that you both support and work towards. (nothing starts fights like when two people have different ideas about spending money)

Be clear when something bothers you so that you dont let it build up. But be willing to compromise. 

If something is an important rating of 9 to one person, but a 2 to another. The person who it is really important to should “win”.  IE Pick your battles. 

And finally, Respect each other.

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