(Closed) So torn its not funny… 2 ceramonies?

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

What if you two did a short, very informal “ceremony” at or before your reception? You could read special vows that you wrote or your favorite love quotes or poems. It probably wouldn’t take too long and you wouldn’t have to dedicate a lot to it.

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I agree with PP ^.  I was raised Catholic, although I don’t practice or attend Mass regularly anymore (mostly because I’m not too keen on nearby parishes).  In short, yes, have two ceremonies.

Depending on what your Church/Diocese requires, you can have your church ceremony and let that be the official, sign-the-license event, and have the strict Catholics present.  Would it be terrible to have it be a little less formal, like a convalidation ceremony?  Maybe you could even do it another day.  Just a thought, maybe it will get your juices flowing.  Or if it’s the same day, I would almost suggest your “Pagan” wedding first, then your quick Catholic ceremony, then the fun stuff.  That way the staunchy types aren’t “exposed.”  Lastly on the Catholic front, is it okay to be a Lector and married to a non-Catholic per your diocese?  Just checking, but I’m sure it is in most.

On the other hand, as someone who feels as a fellow Bee to want only your happiness, consider putting your foot down and having the wedding you want.  It’s YOUR day, you should be allowed to have what YOU want.  Do you really care if Mom’s stuffy-sounding friends attend?  Is there a way to sit her down and tell her the effect it has on you when she gets negatively emotional about things you like?  Again, just thoughts of an outsider.

Good luck, I’m sure you will figure it all out, and I wish you a happy marriage!

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