(Closed) SO UPSET!

posted 9 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Should I buy a new dress or stick with the one I bought
    Buy new dress : (2 votes)
    2 %
    Stick with the original dress even though he knows it is a ball gown : (105 votes)
    98 %
  • Post # 14
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I agree with everyone- he won’t have a clue what it looks like!  I watch Say Yes to the Dress all the time… and have learned to never watch it w/ Fiance, because he has commented on dresses similar to mine and made me freak out a little too… I have a mermaid style dress, and once he said “Why would someone want a dress that was tight and then poofs out?” I freaked and called one of my best friends, and she had her husband reassure me that when your Fiance sees you on your wedding day, he will be in love with your dress no matter what…. and will have no idea what to expect!

    Post # 15
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I really thought you were going to say he said hates ball gowns or something… I see no problem with him knowing it is a ball gown, as many PP’s said, he isn’t going to have much of an idea what it is going to look like because there are so many types. Keep your dress dear, it willl be FINE 🙂

    Post # 16
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Yep. Guy hears ball gown, and all he knows it that its a dress. The surprise is not spoiled! I actually let myself slip by mentioning that I’m selling my other dress because it is a big ball gown. FI’s eyebrows went up, but I don’t think he was able to draw the conclusion that new dress is just slimmer.

    Post # 17
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Mr. Hedgie doesn’t want to know anything about the dress. He knows I want it to be reletively poofy, that it is VERY sparkly and that my train could stretch to China and back and I am fine with it. That doesn’t give him any idea as to the specifics of what the dress actually looks like. You are fine. It didn’t really spoil anything for him.

    Post # 18
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    My bf would not even know what that meant! He would probably just think it meant “wedding dress”.  I wouldn’t worry too much and definitely wouldn’t change your dress!  I might say something to my friend though…

    Post # 19
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    My Fiance would only be able to picture what I was wearing if someone said “she’s wearing a Giant’s away-game “Timmy Lincecum” jersey.”  Truly.  Unless your man has been watching “Say Yes to the Dress” – he is clueless.  Relax.

    Post # 20
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    Worker bee

    Unless your guy is very stylyish, he probably has no idea about the difference between ball gown, mermaid, etc. I don’t know how many times I’ve explained to SO what a cami is and he still goes “huh?”

    Post # 21
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    Bumble bee

    He’s a guy . . . if he even knows what a ball gown is, he won’t remember.  My husband couldn’t even remember if my dress had sleeves or not. And there was a photo in the same room when we had our discussion less than 8 months after the wedding.  And never mind that he has spent time looking at our photos!

    Post # 22
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Most definitely not worth getting stressed about… or buying a new dress!  He won’t be able to piece anything together – it’s still going to be a huge surprise 🙂

    Post # 23
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    You are going to knock his socks off!  

    Post # 24
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    Worker bee

    I say keep it unless he does not  like ball gowns I am in the sistuation.. right now ..

    Post # 25
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Like others have said, to a guy (or even a lot of girls) who’s not super into fashion or actively looking at wedding dresses, the words “ball gown” mean very little.  Plus, he’s probably not going to even remember what she said especially if you didn’t make a big deal of it at the time.  I wouldn’t be surprised if he’s already forgotten about it.

    Post # 26
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    keep the dress! I’m pretty sure he has no idea what a ball gown is. At least she didn’t say something like, cinderella dress or princess dress. It could be worse! I bet you could ask him and he won’t even remember what your friend said exactly.

    Post # 27
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I don’t get this buildup. 99% of brides wear a white formal gown, which is what men are imagining you’ll wear anyway. The details and levels of poofiness might be different but it’s still a white formal wedding gown. He won’t know the difference and likely hasn’t thought about it since.

    Post # 28
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I am sure his idea of a ball gown and what your dress really is are different.

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