(Closed) So upset :(

posted 9 years ago in Married Life
Post # 198
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2585 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@brush1027:  I can’t believe it either! This man is an idiot who will most likely realize he made a mistake. He never deserved you. 

Post # 200
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214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Just spent the last hour reading all your posts and updates. YOU GO GIRl. You are 23 and have your whole life ahead of you. You are going to get some good karma girl. When you’re ready you WILL find the man of your dreams. It won’t last with your ex and the other woman. That’s all she is…the other woman who obviously has no morals or values for being with a married man. 

You are going to get over this. Time is your best friend, and your friends and running is going to keep you busy. Make sure you get everything you want out of that wedding and be happy that it ended within the first year rather then you finding out a few years later. I don’t care if he’s the sexiest, nicest guy, best cook etc. he’s a cheater and that’s something he’s going to live with for the rest on his life. 

In a few weeks you’re going to laugh at him! Time to move on! He’s a loser and a half.

Post # 201
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Wow! I am truly sorry that you are going through this!

It will get better with time but for awhile its going to hurt like hell.

Do what you can when you can. Hold your head high and show no mercy, girl.

Be as classy as you can and never let him see you with a tear in your eye.

Don’t let him take the house , money etc. Yall were married which means you deserve half of it if you ask me!

I wish i could meet him just to slap him in the face. I am so sorry! You are better than this and you will find someone who would never do this to you when the time is right.

Post # 204
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@brush1027:  Wow… um I am willing to bet they slept together.  Probably before you moved out, I would get tested for STDs sometime soon.  Personally I wouldn’t have left the house, and I would not make any kind of an official list with this douchebag without a lawyer.

It’s time to get nasty and play hardball.  Sorry OP 🙁

Post # 205
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@deetroitwhat: Everything you said Agree!!

 

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@brush1027:  I am so sorry you are hurting, but you need look after your interests here. Get a lawyer and tell that rat bastard to deal with your attorney. no more contact!

Post # 206
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199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@brush1027:  I’m so so sorry this has happened to you.

I know that’s not what you might want to hear but you’re much better off without him. What a low low person to have done that.

Post # 208
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

OP, I know you’ve already gotten a lot of advice and support, but I just wanted to leave a message to let you know that you are in my thoughts and I’m praying that you can stay strong to get through this emotional time.

I’m so sorry that you have to go through this – but you are handling everything very well and for that you should be so proud.  Good luck to you – and it’s nice to know you have friends that are supporting you through this.  Online support is great, but sometimes people need a big hug in real life.

Will be thinking of you!

Post # 209
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

what a horrible, horrible person he is! I’m so angry for you. I’m glad you found out what he was too cowardly to tell you about the other girl, I know it must hurt so much right now but with this kind of closeure you’ll be able to move on so much more quickly and fully. You don’t deserve to be treated this way, he is such a coward!

Post # 211
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Bumble bee

@brush1027:  It’s a process, but to use the band-aid analogy, there is usually less pain that lasts less time if you rip it off quickly (make a clean break and be done) vs Pulling it off slowly (continuing to fantasize about reconciling and taking care of him). 

Get back to that angry place!  Make him take care of himself and let start to miss you and realize what he’s lost.  To use a too often quoted phrase, “how can I miss you if you won’t go away.” 

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