(Closed) So upset :(

posted 9 years ago in Married Life
Post # 348
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270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@brush1027:  just cancel it, and let him deal with the hassel of reconnecting it. Then send him a message telling him you canceled it and to either return the modem or call to get it reconnected himself. Dont’ go our of your way for him.

Edit to add: Bash HIS face in. She’s a hoe, sure, but she doesnt owe you anything…she didn’t screw your marriage up. HE DID. But obviously…just dream about it, don’t actually do it. 🙂

 

Post # 349
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4554 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I can’t get over what a dick this guy is. Seriously. Part of me hopes he gets mauled by a herd of bears.

Post # 350
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454 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@brush1027:  

 I agree with 

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@MrsConnick: , I would just cut it off! Make him deal with the hassle. Don’t do him any favors!

Post # 351
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249 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Wow! I hope everything turns out good for you! He’s a jerk!

Post # 353
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@brush1027:  Dont think of the good times. He’s obviously either lied to (before the stripper) about how he felt (remember he said he’d been having doubts for awhile, but still married you) or he’s changed so much that he isn’t the same guy you once fell in love with.

When you start to miss him, start to think about what kind of diseases he catching from that skanky stripper!

Post # 355
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@brush1027: Aren’t you holding onto the past just as much as/more than him? You are holding onto the memory of the good times when he has been treating you like utter shit for the past few months. Trust his actions now, not his behavior in your memories. Lying, cheating, refusing to get counseling, emotional manipulation, I could go on…these are not the actions of a good man. Regardless of what scenario you have told yourself might happen, your marriage is over. I’m sorry to tell you this, but it’s the truth. The sooner you accept that, the sooner you will be able to move forward with your life.

Post # 356
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I know you’re wondering how did he change so much in such little time.

 

I think this book called “Uncoupling: Turning Points in Intimate Relationships” will show you that it probably happened (not the other woman, but his change of mind) well before you were aware.  This reads like a thesis.  Basically nearly every relationship that unravels goes through most of these steps.

 

 

I won’t tell you how to get over it or what to do now, but it will answer some of those “why” questions, show you that you’re not alone, others have gone through this, and you can relate with some of the scenarios.

Post # 357
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Blushing bee

@EffieTrinket:  

Bring on the bears. 

OP I’m sorry to read what he’s done to you. You’ve been given amazing advice from other bees and I hope you start to see your own value because he sure doesn’t.

Post # 359
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@brush1027:  So glad you are doing well and getting on with your life!

Happy Easter (it’s a time of rebirth!!)

Post # 360
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Bumble bee

@brush1027:  It sounds like the last couple of days have been better.  Yea!!!! I’m sure you’ll still have moments when you backslide – just remember these days. 

Post # 361
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Thinking of you!

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