- 6 years ago
- Wedding: April 2019
Haven’t posted my own thread in a while, so here goes. I am almost 22, my Fiance has just turned 22, we both live at home with our parents. My Fiance works full time, but at a low paying job that doesn’t have any room for promotion or anything like that. He just works in the storeroom of a shop selling sewing machine parts, etc. He did go to TAFE for a couple months but did not complete the course, and this was four years ago. I graduated from a Bachelor of Arts last year and am currently studying a Bachelor of Commerce, possibly will do an honours year after that and then maybe do a CPA program after that (which I could do while working full time).
I got diagnosed with severe depression (or major depressive disorder) 3 and a half months ago, something I believe I have had for several years, developing since early childhood. I am on two antidepressants and seeing a psychiatrist regularly, but sometimes I feel like I am getting nowhere. I am a lot better than I was, but still nowhere near where I should be. I started working as a casual employee in the finance department in a large company July of last year, but haven’t been working since I got diagnosed.
I don’t feel yet well enough to go back to work, but I feel like I have to, since my Fiance and I definitely want to live together for a year or two before getting married. But we couldn’t afford all expenses (incl insurance, medical bills, etc) on his salary or our salaries combined when I go back to work.
I have also recently had more issues with my weight, I have always had a sweet tooth but over the years it has developed into a serious addiction to sugar and junk food. I am now overweight (5’3″ and 154pounds) but can’t stop, I have also had a slight weight gain due to the medication I am on.
With all this I feel like we will never be able to move out of home and get married, I don’t know what to do. I haven’t felt like thinking about or planning the wedding at all lately.
ETA: My parents said a couple years ago that they would contribute some to the wedding, and my FI’s parents said they would pay for half (money’s no obstacle – his mum’s words) but Fiance and I would like to be able to pay for some too