(Closed) So upset I can just cry!!

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Hostess
16191 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Oh, tammy, I am so sorry! I know nothing will be able to fill your sister’s void, but don’t forget about all the people who WILL be there to celebrate with you on your special day. Don’t let one person ruin this for you. Hang in there, girl.

Post # 4
Member
345 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

can you talk to her face to face? this is terrible, honey im so sorry.

try your best to do what YOU can to “make amends” even tho you did nothing wrong…thats al you can control….you cant control her bad behavior, but at least go into your wedding knowing you did all you could.

but confront her, shes family and its not fair shes being like this to you on the happiest day of your life

Post # 5
Member
257 posts
Helper bee

something big is bothering her. Is she married? maybe her and her husband are on turbulent water. or, her and her boyfriend. It’s not you. She has something else going on now and she needs time to digest it. She will come around or if she doesn’t, it won’t be that you didn’t let her, it will be with her all her life as to why she did this to you…  Cry now but joy will come in the morning and you’ll be married to your true love. 

Post # 7
Hostess
16191 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I agree that something could be really wrong. Maybe you need to take the high road and reach out/force her to talk to you. Without knowing her, I can’t say what she’s thinking, but if you’re sisters who were close, I feel like it really has to be a real issue for her to decline attending your wedding. You poor thing.

Post # 8
Member
168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m so sorry!

Do you think it could be that she’s jealous? I don’t know. I just feel terrible that she would be ignoring you and your Maid/Matron of Honor like that :(.

Please don’t let her attitude negatively affect your wedding!

I hope you can figure something out.

Post # 9
Member
555 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

It almost sounds as thought she’s not ok with you getting married but doesn’t want to come out and say it. Does she like or have a problem with your FI? Didn’t you say she was just married last year? Are they already having problems? Maybe she’s not ready to tell anyone but the idea of going to a wedding is too painful.

Post # 10
Member
5778 posts
Bee Keeper

It sounds like she may be hiding something. Any chance she’s being abused emotionally/physically and is ashamed to face everyone? Its probably the last thing you might want to think,but unless there’s something major going on with her,has she ever acted this way before?

Post # 12
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345 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

lol so surprising her by showing up at her door….not ok?….how do you think she would react? that just sounds so odd to me…no offense…if my brother was being this way i would march to hhis front door and put a foot in his ass.

well…could u spill ur guts via email or letter?

i say ur still doing all u can…thats all you CAN do =( im so sorry you have to go through this, but one day SHE will be regretting how she treated you and not being there for your special day

Post # 13
Member
345 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

scream and kick you out? that sounds stable..

maybe her marriage is on the rocks??? and it is emotionally difficult for her to be involved? maybe its nothing against you….but if that is the case she needs to set her personal problems aside for YOU

Post # 15
Member
345 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

what does your family say about all this?

Post # 16
Member
58 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Tammy, soooo sorry to hear this is happening to you. Unfortunately, something crazy happens to people around weddings and funerals! They just completely loose their minds. This is effecting you so deeply because this is supposed to be such a happy, joyful momumental day in your life.

I had a VERY close friend (would consider “sister”) best friend drop out of my wedding also. I had a GOOD cry (sometimes that helps…acknowledge the hurt and disappointment). Then I chose to be the bigger person and forgive her. In my case my friend is going through some pretty heart wrenching issues right now in her life and can’t be there for me (no matter how much she would like to).

Try not to take it too personally (I know that is sooo hard), and know something else is going on with her…probably nothing to do with you. She is your sister, don’t let this ONE day drive a wedge between you two. 

Enjoy this time of being a BRIDE, planning and preparing to marry your Fiance, you will never have this time back ever again. Don’t let this damper this time in YOUR life. It goes by soooo fast.

 

 

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