(Closed) So upset, I don’t know what to do!

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

dont let her comments affect you,good luck,it’s all about you and your hubby, she’s just insecure you are stealing her baby from her

Post # 4
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1339 posts
Bumble bee

Ugh what a horrible woman.  Obviously you shouldn’t take it personally, this is her problem not yours!  There is something wrong with herself and she puts the poison out on others.  Of course I’m sure she just wants to pick on you because you are happy and she isn’t.  Sorry honey!   

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Talk to your Fiance, chick. He should stand up for you if his mom is puttin you down. Take care of yourself.

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

You need to stop her right then and there. Don’t let her talk to you to the point you get angry. Tell her you don’t need her comments and they are inappropriate. Stand up for yourself, don’t let her get to you. She knows she is and she loves it. Mean women are like that =(

Post # 9
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1641 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would just smile and say “thanks’, then go and do what you want.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Is she in your house a lot/living with you?

You’re right to walk away when she’s biting, but you do need a better solution long term, you’ll give yourself an ulcer or somethin having to bite your tongue all the time. Better to have a verbal row than a physical one lol!!

But seriously, you do need some kind of calm way of sorting this. Does she realise she could be talking herself out of getting to see her grandkids all the time by being nasty to you? Maybe she doesn’t… hmmm..

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

Don’t ever let anyone make you feel like you are a bad mother. We all have our own ways and just because you may not be doing things the way she would like doesn’t mean it is the wrong way to go about it.

Keep your head up… I have super critical family members as well and my standby comment is “I am an adult and I do not need a lecture about what to do with my child… If I want your advice I will ask for it. Thanks.” and then I hang up =) hehehe

Works VERY well… let me tell ya!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

“I just don’t want to ruin the good relationship she thinks we have and I don’t want to come between Fiance and his family. He will say stuff to her but he’d rather just tune her out.”

 

If it’s causing you to suffer you need to put her in her place! Especially if your Fiance won’t. If he’s not willing to see how much she’s hurting you and put a stop to it then what is going to stop her from doing this for the rest of your lives?

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

Yeah wow..  sounds like a very delicate situation.

Not to be rude but she sounds like she’s a little on the crazy side…

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Just know that she’s an untactful and possibly rude person and just let her comments roll off you you.

Most importantly know that you are not a bad mom. Don’t let her undermind your confidence. If anything feel sorry for her because she feels the need to belittle others.

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