(Closed) So upset… nearly in tears

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
2571 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@MrsWinTraining2014:  I know it sucks, but at least she will be there for the wedding. Also, does your Maid/Matron of Honor work weekends or something? I would figure that a shower or bachelorette would be on the weekend and hence, it wouldn’t affect her work schedule?

Post # 5
1219 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

That sucks, but at least she will be able to come to the wedding!

Post # 6
1603 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@MrsWinTraining2014:  Uh, why don’t you just have your bach/bridal shower on days that she already has off? I assume she doesn’t work 7 days a week. There’s also several months between now and June. You could have your shower in May.

Post # 7
3075 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@MrsWinTraining2014:  It’s not a requirement for your Maid/Matron of Honor to attend the shower or the bachelorette party.  Her job is to be there and support you on your wedding day.

Post # 8
47439 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

so have the  bachelorette and shower on her days off.

Post # 9
9680 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I’m not sure who would schedule showers during Monday to Friday work hours. Aren’t they usually on weekends? She will be at the wedding, so she’s not obligated to go to three events for the same wedding in one month. That’s a lot to ask anyone to do. 

Post # 10
4520 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

That stinks! If she’s your Maid/Matron of Honor, she must be important to you, so I’m sure you would have wanted her there. My BFF/MOH moved to Florida this week, so I’m also coping with my Maid/Matron of Honor not having the active role I’d envisioned. Ultimately, she’s still my BFF, but it is tough no to have her around as much as I’d like.

Post # 11
2609 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

If she really only gets one single day off a month, that sucks. No weekends? Showers etc are usually on weekends, so if she does get weekends off then maybe there’s nothing to really worry about. If not then that sucks but at least she will still be there for the wedding day.

Post # 12
2211 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

It’s disappointing, but it’s not the end of the world.  We all encounter disappointments here and there with wedding planning (i.e. 1/4 of the friends I’m inviting are having babies my wedding month so they probably won’t come), but the important part is that she’ll be standing right next to you on your big day. 

Be sad for today, or maybe even tomorrow, but don’t let it ruin the whole experience for you.

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@jessicadarling:  have your shower in May?  I’m having my shower 2 months before; it’s a fairly common practice.  And maybe have your bachelorette party on a day that she has off, or can make part of it?

Post # 13
11528 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I thought you were going to say that the other wedding was the same day as yours.

Your Maid/Matron of Honor doesn’t need to attend your shower or bachelorette parties to be your Maid/Matron of Honor, but, as other bees have suggested, it certainly should be possible for those types of events to be held on days that your Maid/Matron of Honor does not have to work, if it is important to you and to her that she be there.

Post # 14
2677 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

Can’t you schedule the shower or at least the bachorlette party around her days off that she gets normally?  Or maybe have one or both of those parties in May instead?  Please don’t cry over this!

Post # 15
1403 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

She doesn’t work all 30/31 days a month, surely?  Also, neither a bridal shower nor a bachelorette are required, and neither should take all day, so I think you are getting upset prematurely.

Post # 16
881 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I am sorry but were you expecting your Maid/Matron of Honor husbands brothers fiance to consult you on her wedding date or choice of MOH?! Snap out of it. Seriously. You are getting yourself worked up over nothing. Usually the Maid/Matron of Honor plans the shower and if not keep her tight in the loop with someone who is planning it and I am sure she will pick a day she has off.

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