(Closed) So Upset right now I could strangle my husband

posted 8 years ago in Pets
Post # 3
772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

You obviously have disagreements on what you think is necessary for a puppy (though why he thinks the dog can go ten hours is insane).  Is there a way to recognize that you spend more time caring for the puppy, and he should spend more time cleaning or doing something else? 

Post # 4
198 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

You’re right, it’s not ok for a puppy (or any dog, really) to go 10 hours without a bathroom break. I think you are right in using the raise money to hire a dog walker for your pup. You both agreed to get a dog and if your husband is upset about the dog walker v. fridge then it sucks but you’ll have to stand firm, the puppy’s welfare is the priority. Good luck, it sounds like a really frustrating situation. And I don’t think you are overreacting at all.

Post # 5
433 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012


Ugh, that sounds like a very annoying situation. Poor thing, that is way too long without a potty break. The dog could wind up having a bladder infection, if he doesn’t have an accident first.

Have you considered indoor puppy pads, or a doggy turf? They sell this one at Sears for $79:


I am considering this too because we are getting a pug after the new year and i just know he is not going to be good about poopie duty….


Post # 6
1975 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

we have a small pup too, we have a doggy door so he can go out to potty as he pleases is that possible?

we also have puppy pads for just incases (like if its raining)

Post # 9
2861 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’d hire the dog walker and be done with it. We’ve never had an argument over dog duties, but we do fight about things to be done around the house. If he won’t help me then I hire help, period. Oh and it comes out of HIS budgeted money too. Mama don’t play, haha. 

Post # 10
2401 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We have an emergency dog walker on call as well. Our dog is alone for 8 hours and is alright with it, but she’s a small dog who really doesn’t mind (and she’s potty trained for those long times). But if you have a puppy, you need to have routine. A dog walker will certainly help. 

Post # 11
85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Oh my goodness! I cannot stand to hear that this is happening. If he cannot think past himself for a bit to think of a helpless little creature, that’s pretty bad. A marriage is a mutual committment of responsibilites. If he agreed to get the puppy, it is as as much his responsibility as it is yours. I know it may not be as easy as we all think to just put him in his place and tell him to start doing his part, but — put him in his place! 

Post # 12
431 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@mija22:  Why don’t you ask him to sit for 10 hours without a potty break! Ha. I agree OP, hire someone to come let the puppy out during the day. :- )

Post # 13
1889 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t think you’re being irrational at all.  You just need to flat-out tell him that either he takes the dog out more often (tell him specifically how often too), or you’re hiring a dog-walker/doggie day care.  Simple as that.  Some men seem to think that “marriage”=full-time help.  Not when wifey works too!

I had to do something similar with chores recently, DH and I both work 40+ hours/week and have pretty long commutes and I simply can’t do all the house work plus take care of the dogs (not to mention I have allergies and get sick when I vacuum/dust).  I said either he vacuums/dusts/cleans bathrooms on the regular or we’re getting a maid.  I let about a month or two go by and didn’t see him doing these things so I just told him the other day, I’m getting us a maid.  He couldn’t argue with me at that point.

Post # 14
47 posts
  • Wedding: December 2010

I can’t believe no one has brought up the fact that a puppy needs more than just being let out to pee! Ten hours alone for a puppy is really bad, as you are aware. Puppies need so much stimulation, companionship, training and attention, just like human babies.

Getting someone to walk it is a start, but then what? It’s left on its own again to entertain itself for more hours. This is why people end up with destructive adult dogs.

With regards to the puppy not peeing on the pad/grass thing, you have to teach them what to do. There are countless articles and how to’s on the internet that explain how to do this.

Time alone should be short at first and very gradually increased, and even then, no more than around six hours without breaking it up with coming home to let it out/have a quick play.

I know this isn’t convenient, but that’s not the dogs fault. You are obviously angry this happened, which is good because hopefully that means it won’t happen again.

Post # 15
291 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I know I’m going to be ribbed for this but if you knew the pup was going to be left for that length of time then I’m sorry but you shouldn’t have adopted him, surely that’s not a crazy viewpoint here?? More to the point, I’m quite shocked that he was adopted out considering the circumstances. 

Post # 16
47 posts
  • Wedding: December 2010

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@SweetChick:  That’s what i really wanted to say.

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