(Closed) So upset right now- MOH says she feels used

posted 11 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
134 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Ugh, sounds like she is a bit self absorbed or maybe she is just confused?

Post # 4
1985 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Umm, she’s being ridiculous…What does she want from you?

Post # 6
3788 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011


Ohmygosh, I am so sorry you are going through this. I can’t believe she would turn this back around on her. Obviously you want them there if they are your ONLY guests! It’s ridiculous. I know wedding planning has brought up some issues for me where I realize how much I wish my family cared more about me, and this reminds me of it. It hurts, and you’d think your friends would be there for you. I hope she comes to her senses.

Post # 7
10354 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

She sounds as crazy and irrational as my mother is being right now. Good luck with this!

Post # 8
445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

An old friend of mine was totally like this. I believe the psychological term is “narcissist” … it’s all about them. You don’t exist except as a bit player in the drama of her life, basically.

I think you already HAVE been the better friend here, and she is absolutely being ridiculous.

Post # 9
5495 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m so sorry! I wish I knew what you could tell her, but I really don’t! I didn’t read anywhere that she and the Bridesmaid or Best Man were cut entirely from the wedding!

Post # 10
529 posts
Busy bee

Wow! I couldn’t even make sense of her response. It sounds like you have done nothing but be kind to her. Is you Fiance involved? Maybe he can speak to the husband. You are in our thoughts.

Post # 13
2536 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

*hugs* and good luck. I wish I had some kind of advice.

Post # 15
385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

This is very strange!  Are you sure that she understood what you were saying?  Maybe a phone call is in order, just to make sure that she understood the actual change? 

If you’re sure that she knows what’s going on, then the only other explanation is that she’s psycho.  If she needs that much reassurance and petting, then you’re no longer her friend, you’re her care taker. 

Good luck!  I hope that you and your Fiance enjoy every minute of your wedding day! 

Post # 16
1636 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@cbee- I know it may be not polite but if she skips out on your wedding…I’d tell her I wanted the necklace and shoes back!

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