(Closed) So upset…please give me your advice

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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160 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

It sounds like you tried to talk to her about it. If you still have time, I would fire this one and ask your other best friend to be your Maid/Matron of Honor. It really isnt worth getting so upset over. I know that it hard to see now, but I had bridesmaid drama as well, and now that the wedding is over, it seems so stupid.

Post # 5
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3151 posts
Sugar bee

I think that if you need more help and she is ruining your wedding experience then you should let her go gently. I think you should calmly sit down and plan making your case with her lack of interest, support, financial stability and everything else you have mentioned. She will most likely get really defensive and blow up buy try to stay calm and to your original argument and just be firm with her. She will try to make you out to be a selfish attention hog that is demanding unreasonable things from her, just let her know that she isn’t performing her duties that she agreed to take on and that you need someone who will. 

Post # 6
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160 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

If she is your true friend, I think that she would understand. She might be hurt, but you need to do what is best for you. It really isnt worth the stress and negativity this is bringing into such a wonderful time of your life.I would hope that she wouldnt defriend you after all of what you have been through and the friendship you have build.

You are not expecting too much of her, but maybe in the beginning you did not outline what you expected of her. Maybe a simple stating of expectations and giving her one last chance to drop out will set her straight. Make a list, collect your thoughts and go in without getting emotional.

Post # 8
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1909 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@faith1583a: Oh dear, I’ve been in your shoes. I told my Maid/Matron of Honor that at the rate we were going I was afraid we would no longer be friends by the time my wedding came around. Her feelings were hurt at first. After thinking about it, she admitted she wasn’t into being Maid/Matron of Honor and would be happier just being a bridesmaid. And that the decision didn’t mean she was a bad person. We are getting our friendship back on track and making that the priority over the title in the wedding party. Best of luck to you 🙂

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