Post # 1
Seeing as how I’m flying in for my wedding only a bare week beforehand and I really don’t even have any friends left in the area, I wasn’t even thinking about things like bridal showers, bachelorette parties, and the like. I just assumed it would just be the wedding and that’s it. No other festivities. Which was fine by me, because I’ve never been to any such things before and would have no idea if I was missing out or not anyway.
Fast forward to last week and my mom tells me two of my aunts that I don’t know very well would like to throw me a bridal shower. Well, that’s cool, I thought, and very, very nice of them, especially considering we’re not close. So, sure. Why not?
Except I didn’t know what a bridal shower entailed until I looked it up. Is it really just sitting around opening gifts? I guess I don’t mind if it is, even though part of me dies inside when I have to be the center of attention and there’s also the logistical problem of bringing things back to Australia.
So basically, I want to know… what goes on at a bridal shower? What should I expect? Is it a girls only thing?
Post # 3
Usually it’s a ladies only event, although sometimes people have joint showers (I’ve never been to one so I can’t really comment on those). Usually you play some cheesy games, people win door prizes, eat, drink, and you open presents.
Post # 4
Finger foods and presents is basically what happens at showers I’ve been to. Some have games, too.
Post # 5
Well, I’ve only been to one, myself. It usually consists of some party games. Most often they are not fun. Wellllll… let’s put it this way, it’s fun for our mothers but kinda lame for us haha. But yes the main focus is gift giving. Can you have your mother spread the word to have gifts sent to your home in Australia? That would definitely be a nightmare to bring back a bazillion gifts. Usually you get big, heavy things like pots and pans sets, bedding sets, just a whole bunch of stuff for your house. But then again, if you aren’t registered anywhere and aren’t ASKING for these gifts (not that we ever *ask* for these things, oh no, that’s tacky, yet MOST EVERY BRIDE I KNOW registers for SOMETHING! [end rant]), then perhaps you would only have to worry about a few cute smallish things, like photo frames and the like.
If I were you, I would ask your mom about that. She can get in touch with your aunts and get the low down on what you should expect and if you’re going to need to buy more luggage to bring everything home in, as well as the extra cost of extra baggage. Yikes!
Either way, I am sure you will have fun at the party. Even if it’s silly little games from way back when, everyone is getting together to celebrate you and this next step in your life, so sit back, let them pin whatever ridiculous trappings on you that they want, subject you to whatever well-intentioned humiliations they have planned. It will be fun 🙂
OH And there’s usually YUMMY FOOD!!! Woohoo!!
Post # 6
Oh… I guess that’s not too bad. What kind of games?
Post # 7
You might be able to have your mom speak to your aunts about the logistical issues with gifts and traveling to Australia. They could call it a “bridal luncheon” or “bridal tea” instead (the difference is that there is no expectation of gifts – although people still might bring them), or the aunts could encourage people to do gift cards instead, etc (although that also gets tricky since many of them may not be useable in AUS).
Post # 8
Let your aunts spread the word that gifts need to be small and easy for you to get back to Australia (which they can put in the invitation). You might well end up with lots of gift cards and picture frames and such.
Post # 9
I have already asked my mom to instruct any wedding guests inquiring about gifts to say that we either don’t need anything or that money is best. For those who insist on getting us a real gift, I have a small registry of about 10 small items (nothing over $50) that people can buy from Australian retailers and have shipped to our address here. So I doubt people would get pots and pans… I would imagine my mom would let them know that we can’t bring big things back with us. At least, I hope she would.
Post # 10
The games are often “get to know the bride” (if, for instance, the shower is mainly FI’s side and they don’t know you very well yet) or maybe stuff related to your life, your profession, your interests, etc. My sisters did a really cute thing for mine: I’m a foreign language teacher, so they created a matching game by looking up a bunch of “love, marriage, wedding”-related words in foreign languages and having guests match the words with their meanings, or identify which language each word was from. And the funniest part was that I had to correct them and decide who won. Yes, my sisters made me grade papers at my own bridal shower!
Post # 11
Bridal showers are fun!! Good way to get the ladies from both sides of the family and your girlfriends to become acquainted, and then be able to socialize more comfortably at the actual wedding.
Post # 12
Food, games and gifts. That is basically it, in that order LOL. Kind of like a baby shower.
Post # 13
- Wedding: October 2012 - Watch tower lodge, Black hawk state Park Rock Island, IL
kinda like a baby shower without the whole baby thing lol. usually some party games, finger foods and cake, and opening presents, usually its stuff from your registry OR sometimes its a lingere party or stuff for your honeymoon 😉
Post # 14
You could also do a “personal shower,” although if you don’t know the ladies too well that might be embarassing.
For a personal shower you would get lingere-type of items that would be small and easy to get back to Australia.
Post # 15
a few games and gift giving/opening 🙂