(Closed) SO wants to get married but isn't keen on a wedding..

posted 6 years ago in Venue
Post # 3
4930 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

What about an elopement? You can have the wedding that you want and it can be private and personal and nontraditional for him. 

Post # 4
942 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Would he be more comfortable eloping and then having a reception afterwards? You could also do like a REALLY small destination wedding….?

why does he not want a wedding? is it the money. There are quite a few budget breakdowns on here for under $5000 weddings – it can be done

Post # 5
4429 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@misskittenn:  elope on your honeymoon ; ) sandles resorts gives you a free martha stewart wedding for free with your stay of 5 days or more you can get married and do your honeymoon at the same time.

Post # 6
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Does he know about the new options for couples, ones with middle grounds between elopements and blow out weddings?

You two can do a destination wedding, where you whisk a small group of loved ones to a locale for the wedding. 

Backward wedding, where you can invite a small list of close family and friends.

an intimate/small wedding, where you keep the guest list below about 50 (or below 25, just whatever you want, really.) 

I think it’s very important that you two agree on this aspect or you’ll regret it. My sister to this day regrets her courthouse wedding. It’s been 23 years. She’s totally into my wedding because of it. I love this, because we can live it together.

My Fiance is like yours in that he wants to get married but avoid the spotlight. 

Before you tell yours anything, I’d sort out a list of everything weddings have and take some time to figure out what of these things do I really “need” so that my day feels right, special an important.

For me, it was the groom, the ceremony, the dress, my father performing his part on the aisle on dance floor. Awesome meal, cake.

So list out your needs, see what catagory of wedding they fit into, then approach Fiance.If you find you don’t really need the things that require an audience, then elope. 



Post # 8
3 posts
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would do a small backyard wedding.  Im really scared to get married.  I was more nervous about a ton of people stairing at me. We decided to do a small backyard wedding.  We will have Grandparents/Parents/Brothers and Sisters/ and their children.  Thats it.  We will be spending about $4000 tops on ours.

Post # 9
942 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012






heres a couple of budget breakdowns to help convince your SO that weddings won’t always cost the same as a house deposit. I think these weddings are beautifully done and somewhere between courthouse and bells & whistles 

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