(Closed) SO wants to get pregnant right now..help!

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

I’m not at that stage yet, but I’ve heard that some reproductive specialists won’t see you until you’ve been trying for at least a year. Not that they have any way of proving that, but might be something you want to check into. Just be careful about insurance as well…they have certain criteria you have to meet in order to have certain tests and procedures covered for inferitlity.

I think it’s a lot easier for guys to get checked out than it is for gals to…there are a ton of bees who have been through this, so they might have additional information for you.

Post # 4
1120 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

As far as I know, most doctors wont see you unless you have been trying for at least a year without success.

Did you start charting and all that stuff? This is information that would be useful before going to a gyn..

Post # 5
4023 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Like PP, most drs won’t see you until 1 yr of trying. Some MIGHT see you at 6 months depending on history.

Post # 6
1697 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I know that at age 36 my sis dr gave her hormone shots after only 3 months of trying because of her age. She got twins right after her first shot.

Post # 7
927 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Wow, don’t stress, it is way too early to worry about it! You’ve only been trying for a few months. And like you said, there’s only a 25% chance of pregnancy each cycle, even with perfect timing. Have you read Taking Charge of Your Fertility and do you chart? You might find you’re missing your fertile window completely. But please don’t stress, baby making is supposed to be fun!

Post # 8
7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@silver1: If you are not a high risk pregnancy (over 35 for instance) it’s 12 months. Most of them will want you to chart and keep track of your cycles for that amount of time as well. 

Post # 9
2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Unless your 35+, most doctors will not become concerned until you hit the yr mark.  I agree that you do need to start tracking.  I use a simple program, My Days, on my Droid.  

Post # 10
2142 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I completely understand where your husband is coming from. But like many ladies already mentioned most specialists won’t see you unless it’s a year. I’ve heard that over 30 they will seee you at 6months. But again that’s under the discretion of your OB/GYN. But OB was comfortable referring us to a specialist before the 1 yr mark if we wanted to.

I think your first step is to start charting and temping, if you go see a specialist they will need to know those things. Maybe your first course of action to settle your husband some by actually doing something is to find a ob/gyn you are comfortable with.

But otherwise unless you are ready to go to a specialist there is not really much the OB can do to see if you are “fertile”. I was really worried about being fertile as well and I asked even years before TTC.

My husband and I have no known health or fertility issues and it took us 9 cycles.

Post # 13
2142 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010


I think why we all recommend charting is that even with a average 28 day cycle there’s no guarantee that you are ovulating at the typical “middle” day 14 of the month. In fact many ladies don’t ovulate on day 14. And since your egg once released is only viable for roughly 24-36 hours afterwards if that was the day you did not BD then you’re SOL that month.

If you have been having continual unprotected (as in -TMI- your husband is ejaculating in you) sex then I would personally say that should count for TTC for x time.

Post # 14
7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

@squeak35: I am using the same app, I love it! I just wish I knew for sure it was accurate about my most fertile days. How long have you been using the app? Do you use anything else to make sure it is correct? We aren’t trying to have kids, but I like not having to think about when my period is going to come

Post # 15
2321 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

You can get a standard ovarian check done to make sure you do have both of your ovaries and that they are HEALTHY.

If you think too much about it, you will only stress yourself out consciously or sub-consciously which are both VERY BAD for actually TTCing!

Post # 16
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@silver1: I think you have to be actively trying to conceive for year, rather than just have been married for a year. I agree with pp that you should start actively trying and also charting and you may end up pregnant sooner than you think, But stressing out definitely doesnt help

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