Post # 1
He wants to go see doc if we don’t get pregnant this month and already emailed me the name of specialist his GP recommended!! I told him there is only ~25% chance to conceive each month. But part of me wonders what if something is wrong and we would rather find out sooner than later. Is there some kind of generic appt. where doc can check out if we are able to conceive? I don’t want to stress out with too many tests and all that stuff considering we are only on TTC cycle #3. We moved to new town recently and I don’t have doctor yet. So wondering if I should make an appt with Gyn and make sure everything is ok? I personally think we can wait some more but why not just check. Has anyone been in similar situation? We are in our early-mid thirties and he does not want to wait too long.
Post # 3
I’m not at that stage yet, but I’ve heard that some reproductive specialists won’t see you until you’ve been trying for at least a year. Not that they have any way of proving that, but might be something you want to check into. Just be careful about insurance as well…they have certain criteria you have to meet in order to have certain tests and procedures covered for inferitlity.
I think it’s a lot easier for guys to get checked out than it is for gals to…there are a ton of bees who have been through this, so they might have additional information for you.
Post # 4
As far as I know, most doctors wont see you unless you have been trying for at least a year without success.
Did you start charting and all that stuff? This is information that would be useful before going to a gyn..
Post # 5
Like PP, most drs won’t see you until 1 yr of trying. Some MIGHT see you at 6 months depending on history.
Post # 6
I know that at age 36 my sis dr gave her hormone shots after only 3 months of trying because of her age. She got twins right after her first shot.
Post # 7
Wow, don’t stress, it is way too early to worry about it! You’ve only been trying for a few months. And like you said, there’s only a 25% chance of pregnancy each cycle, even with perfect timing. Have you read Taking Charge of Your Fertility and do you chart? You might find you’re missing your fertile window completely. But please don’t stress, baby making is supposed to be fun!
Post # 8
@silver1: If you are not a high risk pregnancy (over 35 for instance) it’s 12 months. Most of them will want you to chart and keep track of your cycles for that amount of time as well.
Post # 9
Unless your 35+, most doctors will not become concerned until you hit the yr mark. I agree that you do need to start tracking. I use a simple program, My Days, on my Droid.
Post # 10
I completely understand where your husband is coming from. But like many ladies already mentioned most specialists won’t see you unless it’s a year. I’ve heard that over 30 they will seee you at 6months. But again that’s under the discretion of your OB/GYN. But OB was comfortable referring us to a specialist before the 1 yr mark if we wanted to.
I think your first step is to start charting and temping, if you go see a specialist they will need to know those things. Maybe your first course of action to settle your husband some by actually doing something is to find a ob/gyn you are comfortable with.
But otherwise unless you are ready to go to a specialist there is not really much the OB can do to see if you are “fertile”. I was really worried about being fertile as well and I asked even years before TTC.
My husband and I have no known health or fertility issues and it took us 9 cycles.
Post # 11
Thanks ladies for inputs so far please keep them coming.
@2Peasinapod: Thatz a good point on insurance, my hubby’s job has decent coverage or atleast hoping initial tests are not too expensive.
@mwitter80: I am 34 so guess I would be in near high risk category. I have not been charting so far since I have pretty regular cycle of 28 days (for many years). Did it help to see if everything was right or if something was wrong? I am hesitant to take temps so far as I am forgetful and don’t want to worry my hubby even more.
@QBBride: We do BD everyday or next day if we missed during days 7 – 17 of my cycle since we started trying. Its been fun so far but I am afraid we can’t keep this level forever!! I thought that would cover fertility window? I have not read the book yet, is it for both partners? I want to get him a book too when I get mine.
@angelz_love: his sister tried for years and got pregnant with twins after hormone or IVF (not sure which). Maybe he is worried the same will happen..he mentioned his sister’s exprience a couple of times. Would you know how much the hormones cost? I am hesitant to bring up with his family since we are keeping TTC to ourselves for now.
And just some more background, I was consultant traveling for work and recently switched to local job. Hence we didn’t think too much about timing and getting pregnant until this past few months. Since we are married for a year and having sex, would that count for 1 year waiting period?
Post # 12
@regberadaisy: thanks for tip I hope seeing ob/gyn would calm him down!!
squesk35: Unfortunately I don’t have droid. Looks like most folks here suggest charting. Will take advice of hive 🙂 and check something for my phone. He wants to have a baby bad but then if I say something specific like I am day 14 then he gets stressed out!! So I am going to keep tracking low key until he is comfortable with the idea.
Post # 13
I think why we all recommend charting is that even with a average 28 day cycle there’s no guarantee that you are ovulating at the typical “middle” day 14 of the month. In fact many ladies don’t ovulate on day 14. And since your egg once released is only viable for roughly 24-36 hours afterwards if that was the day you did not BD then you’re SOL that month.
If you have been having continual unprotected (as in -TMI- your husband is ejaculating in you) sex then I would personally say that should count for TTC for x time.
Post # 14
@squeak35: I am using the same app, I love it! I just wish I knew for sure it was accurate about my most fertile days. How long have you been using the app? Do you use anything else to make sure it is correct? We aren’t trying to have kids, but I like not having to think about when my period is going to come
Post # 15
You can get a standard ovarian check done to make sure you do have both of your ovaries and that they are HEALTHY.
If you think too much about it, you will only stress yourself out consciously or sub-consciously which are both VERY BAD for actually TTCing!
Post # 16
@silver1: I think you have to be actively trying to conceive for year, rather than just have been married for a year. I agree with pp that you should start actively trying and also charting and you may end up pregnant sooner than you think, But stressing out definitely doesnt help