Post # 1
Yes, I am writing this in an emotional mess at 1:00am. Yes, there may be some typing errors. Finally, yes, this post is (unfortunately) just me being sad and hoping some “cyberspace love” will make me feel a little better – even if just temporarily… So thank you and I appreciate it if you participate. Hugs, love, and kind words much needed and naturally welcomed.
Long story short:
- We called off our wedding…. and we broke up….
- Only our parents know so far
- I just left our car, our house and my job to stay at my parents for now….
- Thoughts, advice, opinions, own experiences, next steps?
*sigh* *another sigh*
Post # 3
I’m so sorry to hear it. I have no advice, but to take it one day at a time.
sending love and blessings your way.
Post # 4
First of all, I am so very sorry this has happened to you. I cannot imagine the way you feel right now. If it is ok, may I ask what happened and why you two broke it off? Is there any way you two can eventually work it out again? Either way, hugs and love sent your way!
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2009 - Mountain Meadow/Mansion
Just wanted to send some warm wishes and support your way!
Post # 6
I’m so sorry! Huge hug!**
Post # 7
@cheerUP: First off ((big hugs)) to you during this time. I can’t imagine how hurt your heart must be right now, but remember, this too shall pass. I know those words might sound empty right now, but it will be okay, eventually.
However, I do want to give some tough love and strongly suggest against leaving your job. Take some personal days, of course, but a job is not something you want to leave abruptly if at all avoidable (this is under the assumption that your new place of living is within commuting distance of your job, of course.)
Okay, now that that is out of the way, take a deep breath and just let it all out. If you need to cry, cry, if you need to vent, vent. I find that in time of emotional distress, the best thing to do is to let your emotions out. It is never a good idea to keep them bottled up in you. You have parents who obviously love you very much and are supporting you during this time, so let them be your support for the time being. You do not need to be strong and stoic right away. Give yourself time to greive and make sense of everything.
Was this something a long time coming or did it catch you off guard? When you’re blindsided by these things, the recovery and healing can take a bit longer, because you’re in shock. Make sure you don’t allow yourself to shut down, the last thing you want is to worsen any type of depression you’re currently experiencing. I’m not saying to force yourself to go out right away, but don’t allow yourself to sit around and dwell for too long. But like I said, right now, your parents are going to be your strength, and they’ll help hold you up until you can do it yourself.
Post # 8
@cheerUP: Oh you poor thing – big virtual hug coming from here!!!
Only tip from my own past experience of a break up…is to protect yourself, even though you might feel like letting things go because you are upset. Be completely fair on yourself and TAKE EVERYTHING THAT IS YOURS. I so regret leaving things behind and not doing things properly because I was heart broken. I regret the things I lost and left because I just wanted to get away from my ex.
I agree with you x 100, one day at a time.
Post # 9
Sending you tons of love and support. Life goes on, I PROMISE!
Post # 11
I’m so sorry. You were incredibly brave to end things when you knew they weren’t right, but that doesn’t make it suck any less. I agree with everyone else–grieve, vent, surround yourself with loved ones. And if you feel like sharing more of your story here, we are happy to listen and give you more specific suggestions here. <3
Post # 12
@cheerUP: so sorry. thinking of you & sending love and light your way. 🙂
Post # 13
I’m sorry this had to happen to you, I have been there and I know how much it sucks. Keep your job, take good care of yourself, and trust that you made a smart decision. The best decisions are never easy. This is not the end, it’s a beginning.
Post # 14
@cheerUP: So sorry hun! Sending you love and support!
Do what is best for you and your life, get all your things and all your money, pour yourself into your career, and lean on your friends and family for a bit. Let yourself feel whatever you have to and just keep reminding yourself every day how amazing you are, how proud you should be for doing what many women dont have the guts to do, how beautiful you are, and how much you derserve the best in love. xo!
Post # 15
So sorry and yes, giant cyber hugs are being sent. All I can say is that I have lost EVERYTHING I owned several times in my life and have walked away from several relationships. It hurts and it is horrible. I survived everythime and things always got better. The same will happen for you.
Post # 16
Well, I am still pretty new at this WeddingBee dealio, so I hope that by “leaving a comment” here, that it is the best way to add more information to my story… I just don’t even know what to write yet?
I am feeling pretty empty right now.
I’ve noticed that time truly does feel like it is going in slow motion when you are going through heartbreak.
I put some leftovers into the microwave for lunch today, and I emptied the dishrack and put on some clean clothes just to come back into the kitchen to see that only 0:59 seconds had passed on the clock.
Heartbreak truly does feel like just that. Like someone is stepping right on your chest.
All I have to say with the Bee’s that still have their partner, would be to give them an extra hug and kiss today. And to thank them for something they did. Then to not get mad, just even once, when they irritate you today. Appreciate what you have and give one another just a little bit more love.. right now.. for me. (But really for you.)