(Closed) So, we changed the date : (

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I totally understand.  I was very much looking forward to my fall wedding, but the timing just wasn’t right.  We changed the date to February, and I am just not as excited about having it that month, while very excited about my wedding and future husband.  In the end though, like you, I know it is the smart move.  (((Hugs!)))

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

 I definitely get where youre coming from… I just brought up the idea of postponing/changing our whole wedding plans last night :- 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We’re in the same position, too. Weddingbee will tell you that our wedding date is October 8th, 2011. In reality, it’ll probabaly be more like Summer 2012, which seems like forever away, but it isn’t so bad. 

I know you’re disappointed now, but honestly, you made the right decision and time flies. I suspect that when it gets closer to the new date, you’ll even be glad that you postponed it because it will have given you more time to get things in order, so you won’t be as stressed as you might have been.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

In the end it is about what makes the most sense for you and your husand. The day is about starting your lives together in a great way not about what temp it is outside. Focus on all of the reasons that it does make sense and how much less stressful the beginning of your marriage will be (emotionally and finiancially)by waiting.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

We originally thought we would be able to get married in November 2011, but realized that financially and with the time constraints, we would have to push it back a full year.  I originally was bummed out, but now, it doesn’t bother me anymore,  One way or another I am excited for that day!

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

We’re going to have to do the same thing.  We were originally talking next fall, but now he says it’s going to have to be spring 2012 at the very earliest because of money issues.  Maybe not even until fall 2012.  I cried and cried.  It makes sense, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t really hurt.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m sorry you had to push it back, and change seasons, but even still, the whole wait will be over before you know it, and you just get that much more time to enjoy the planning and getting the details right. Laughing

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Aww… I really know how that goes.  Originally, Fiance and I thought we would get married in June 2010.  Well, in October 2009, we had a HUGE fight/discussion about it, and decided we would wait to even get engaged until summer 2010.  Well, we did and now we’re getting married next March!

It was extremely disappointing at first, but now I am SO glad we waited!  It’s well worth it if it makes everything easier for you and your Fiance, which is sounds like is the case for you guys.  Fiancially and personally, pushing our date back has had a lot of benefits. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We’ve had to change our wedding date too. He is in the army and I was trying to get married before he gets deployed in the spring. Even though I’m really organized and I was a busy bee planning, MrBabeski thought we should give us more time for planning and wait until he gets back from overseas so we’ve pushed it to 2012. Oh I was disapointed! Oh well, I guess I have to make the most of it and think that we’ll save more money for it and I will have time to bedazzle shoes.

Post # 13
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Helper bee

If it’s any consolation to those of you who decided to change your wedding dates because of jobs, money, or other circumstances like that, my now-husband and I went through exactly that a year ago.

We got engaged in April 2009, and my family was not happy about it at all. My husband decided not to ask my dad’s permission (a HUGE no-no in my very patriarchal family) since he knew my dad would give him a flat out “NO” (for no good reason).  We held off on discussing wedding plans until later that summer, since I was graduating and unemployed. My husband was still in school but he had already been offered an awesome full-time job that he would start after his graduation, so we felt that we could safely pursue our wedding plans since at least one of us was guaranteed employment.

In July of 2009, we set our date for July 31, 2010, giving ourselves a good year to plan our wedding (which we wanted to keep simple), and for me to continue looking for a job. By the end of the summer, I was still unemployed, and my husband’s mother suddenly turned on me, accusing me of keeping her son from becoming a doctor (his longterm goal) and relying on him to support me. She called me irresponsible with money, accused me of not really looking for a job, and said I needed to mature a lot more before I could even think about getting married. It hurt so much, I didn’t speak to her for weeks. My husband was livid that she had turned on me like that, and his anger caused tension between him and his parents. That, coupled with the resentment that my parents already felt about our engagement, caused so much tension that my husband and I began to fight with each other. I was beating myself up for not being able to find work, and he was frustrated that he couldn’t make me feel better.

Long story short, we called off our wedding in September 2009. We also called off our engagement and spent a little time apart. I was sure that it would be years before we’d think about get married, and I didn’t know how long it would be before we’d get engaged again, or if we ever would. 

But, things have a funny way of turning around right when you think they won’t, and in November of 2009, I was hired. I moved into my husband’s tiny room, and after many long talks and thinking, we became engaged again. I found an apartment at an astonishingly low price that would work perfectly for a couple, so he could move in after he graduated in May 2010. Around Christmas, our relationship was stronger than ever, and we started talking about going ahead with a summer 2010 wedding. His parents backed us 100% (thank goodness), but mine were harder to convince. Finally, in January of this year, my parents agreed that we had proven ourselves ready for marriage. 

We planned our wedding in a whirlwind 6.5 months, and on July 10, 2010, we became husband and wife, 21 days before our original date.

Keep your chin up and our eyes open, ladies. You really never know what’s around the bend.

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