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Update!! My boyfriend proposed !!! For all those ladies in waiting like I was (anxious, doubtful, resentful, sad) Have faith in your man and trust him. I know it can be so hard but he will do it on his own time. Thank you for everyone who gave me advice on this site. Much love !
Post # 2
Congrats!!!! You’re ring is nothing short of stunning!
Post # 3
I love your ring and I am truly happy for you . But this kind of passivity “he will do it on his own time” is not good general advice imho. Women should be part of the planning for their own future , always.
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dixiegirl11 : Congrats! Such a beautiful ring 🙂
Post # 5
elderbee : fair enough. Everyone’s situation is different. After many discussions with my man with him stating he would get the job done and me continuing to ask when and where etc, I just had to surrender and let him do it. I like to know every little detail and he had just wanted it to be a true surprise. Worked out in the end for us !
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elderbee : I agree that the passive approach is a vile piece of advise, because I waited 10 years and then I left him, when nothing had happened. It works for some, but I think that for far more people this does not actually work, so if someone wants to waste their precious time, then feel free to wait forever and a day…Otherwise, congrats, OP, glad it worked out for you.
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dixiegirl11 : Congratulations! What an amazing ring. Happy planning!
Post # 8
Congratulations! Your ring is absolutely stunning!
I get that you want to spread the sunshine around, and that’s lovely. But, I agree with the others. Passivity worked for you. Presumably, your relationship remains undamaged. But, in general, it really is dreadful advice.
Women should always be encouraged to be in charge of their own lives, not waiting around for some man to let them know when he has decided to let her in on what her future is going to be.
Post # 9
dixiegirl11 : Was that surprise really worth all your anguish? Answer honestly.
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2018 - Location
Yess amazing congrats and I love the Verragio of course, I have one too 🙂
Post # 11
phillygirl93 : phillygirl93 : it was actually ! That’s what I was worried about too. I think I just overanalyzed the situation way too much and got into my own head a lot. It really seemed like his proposal came from a place of love and whole hearted readiness.
There’s a difference between being passive and letting your guy plan something though. I think for me since it wasn’t happening at my own pace I was freaking out. But he had a plan all along. Like I said, I just had to put my faith in him. Yes it was annoying to wait and took a toll on me, but I think if I didn’t actually know about the ring I would’ve been a lot more chill. Looking back I wish I would have given him the benefit of the doubt and concentrated more on what makes us and him so special and how blessed I am to have a man that loves my daughter and I. I think everyone deserves that. And if deep down your own man doesn’t align with your values, you can find one who actually does.
Post # 12
dixiegirl11 : Fair enough! Congratulations!!!
Post # 13
sassy411 : I highly doubt she meant just wait around and never have a conversation.
dixiegirl11 : Yup, I was right. I think if I constantly harassed my bf about getting engaged, I probably still wouldn’t be getting married next year. Nagging is a huge turn off for anyone.
Post # 14
I’m glad everything worked out for you bee. Congratulations!!
Post # 15
Congratulations, beautiful ring!
I agree that passively waiting isn’t good advice, but I don’t think that’s necessarily the advice you gave. I think if you had a conversation and agreed to a timeline, which is seems you did, then it’s not really passively waiting. I do believe that once you agree to a timeline, you should have faith in your partner that he’ll keep true to it, and relax and just focus on yourself and your relationship as it is currently.
Anyway, congrats again and enjoy your engagement!