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posted 1 year ago in Waiting
Post # 2
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Worker bee

Congrats!!!!  You’re ring is nothing short of stunning!

Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper

dixiegirl11 :  

I love your ring and I am truly  happy for you . But this kind of passivity “he will do it on his own time” is  not good general advice imho. Women should be part of the planning  for their own future , always.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

dixiegirl11 :  Congrats! Such a beautiful ring 🙂 

Post # 6
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Worker bee

elderbee :  I agree that the passive approach is a vile piece of advise, because I waited 10 years and then I left him, when nothing had happened. It works for some, but I think that for far more people this does not actually work, so if someone wants to waste their precious time, then feel free to wait forever and a day…Otherwise, congrats, OP, glad it worked out for you.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

dixiegirl11 :  Congratulations! What an amazing ring. Happy planning!

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

dixiegirl11 :  

Congratulations!  Your ring is absolutely stunning!

I get that you want to spread the sunshine around, and that’s lovely.  But, I agree with the others.  Passivity worked for you.  Presumably, your relationship remains undamaged.  But, in general, it really is dreadful advice.

Women should always be encouraged to be in charge of their own lives, not waiting around for some man to let them know when he has decided to let her in on what her future is going to be.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Location

Yess amazing congrats and I love the Verragio of course, I have one too 🙂 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

 

sassy411 :  I highly doubt she meant just wait around and never have a conversation. 

dixiegirl11 :  Yup, I was right. I think if I constantly harassed my bf about getting engaged, I probably still wouldn’t be getting married next year. Nagging is a huge turn off for anyone. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2020

I’m glad everything worked out for you bee. Congratulations!!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

Congratulations, beautiful ring!

I agree that passively waiting isn’t good advice, but I don’t think that’s necessarily the advice you gave. I think if you had a conversation and agreed to a timeline, which is seems you did, then it’s not really passively waiting. I do believe that once you agree to a timeline, you should have faith in your partner that he’ll keep true to it, and relax and just focus on yourself and your relationship as it is currently.

Anyway, congrats again and enjoy your engagement!

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