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posted 1 year ago in Waiting
Post # 16
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2090 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

Congratulations!! Beeautiful ring!! 

Post # 17
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83 posts
Worker bee

sarusarunna :  Please read OP’s original post again. She explicitely says: ‘Have faith in your man and trust him. I know it can be so hard but he will do it on his own time.’

That would suggest that he proposed when HE felt ready and not when a timeline dictated him to (was there any timeline at all?). Therefore I (and some others) do think that OP’s advice was to wait passively (‘He’ll do it on his how time’, meaning; who cares what you may want a proposal now? He doesn’t, so wait a bit more and then some more again and then, when HE is ready, then he’ll do it.’ The problem with this, of course, is that it worked for OP, but for many others (myself included) this simply didn’t work.

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

londongeocity :  I agree that the OP wasn’t worded well, and upon first reading I also thought it was bad advice (and without context it IS bad advice). However, from a previous post two months ago she said that he gave her a timeline of 6 months, which it seemed she agreed to. So in this case she did agree to a timeline, and he proposed well ahead of the end of the timeline. I think once someone give you a timeline, you either agree to it and let it happen, or speak up and say that timeline doesn’t work for you. But once you agree to it, yes I do think you need to have faith that your partner will keep true to his word (because if you don’t have faith in your partner, why would you marry them?)

So that’s why I said, I agree to waiting as long as there is a timeline that BOTH have agreed to.

Post # 20
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Congratulations, your ring is stunning!

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