Post # 1
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Helper bee
Before I write this post, I want to say that I am not attempting to define what A LOT of money is, because that’s different to everyone.
So my SO bought a ring. I think he will be proposing soon [original story I know 😉 ]—anyways, I was literally flabbergasted on the price he insisted on paying for the ring. I come from a very modest background and he does not. We are both fresh out of college but due to an extremely unusual circumstance, he was blessed with a lot of money. Long story short I’ve never seen even $1,000 in person but he spent more than what a new very nice car woud be on this thing. I’m obviously not complaining about getting such a “nice” diamond and it will have insurance but I still can’t wrap my brain around how I am going to feel with it on my finger every day. I have a picture of it in it’s wax setting and I still can’t wrap my brain around it! My question is, do you feel weird wearing something so expensive on your finger every day? Do you feel more vulnerable? Do you just forget about it over time?
By expensive, I mean what YOUR definition of expensive is. For me, expensive is anything over $400 lol…. so you can imagine my feelings. I’m also not just talking about diamonds; I know almost every gemstone ring is expensive (Moisanites, saphires, etc, can still be thousands!!). I’m a grad student so it will be a while before I can even fathom making that much. How do you guys feel about yours?
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
When I first got it I did feel a little heady occasionally if I would think about it, actually it can still happen, like you would never walk around with that much cash in your handbag, that would just be insane. However I did get used to it and I don’t feel vulnerable wearing it generally. Once or twice I’ve felt some slightly uncomfortable attention on public transport by unsavoury looking characters and sometimes I twist my rings into the palm of my hand.
Mostly it’s all gonna be in your head and nobody around is plotting to rob it off your finger.
Post # 3
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Busy bee
My ring cost $3,140 (for reference, not a super expensive engagement ring) and that is a LOT for me. Keep in mind I am a college student and I do not have money. My fiance is in the military, so not super well off, but he’s a good saver.
I don’t even think about the fact that I am wearing thousands of dollars on my finger. When I clean it, I remember why it cost so much haha. But otherwise, no. I don’t think about it and it doesn’t feel weird. My FMIL’s ring cost about $15k. She doesn’t think about it either.
It might feel crazy at first but you’ll get used to it. Just get that bad boy insured! And post pictures when you get it because that sounds like an incredible stone 🙂
Post # 4
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Blushing bee
I try not to focus on the cost but the fact that it was his decision to spend that much money on something for me. I am still not used to having… a car? on my finger because I actually wanted a smaller diamond and a simple ring. But I think of it as my SO wasn’t pressured to get me something that expensive and it was his own decision to do so. I love my ring, not because of the cost or the way it looks, but because my fiancé is the best guy and I am lucky to have him, the ring was a nice extra. 😉
Post # 5
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Helper bee
msbr : I have a picture already! Do you want to see it even though its in a green wax? 🙂 lol. I feel lame for posting it like that but I will!
Good, I’m so glad to hear that you eventually forget about it! Oh it will def be insured. That would not be smart if I didn’t, lol!
Post # 6
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Helper bee
stephaninja :
That’s a great way to think about it 🙂
Post # 6
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Busy bee
naturelovebee : Yes let’s see! Wax molds never do it justice but that just means the actual ring will be 100 times more incredible haha
Post # 8
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Helper bee
Its an oval. Took him forever to decide on one. I still can’t believe I landed this awesome diamond lol
msbr :
Post # 9
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Newbee
Holy moly! That diamond is huge! How many carats?
Its gorgeous!
Post # 10
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Helper bee
I knew it was expensive when he gave it to me but it never really occurred to me to think about it… It’s only now that I have joined these boards and have researched in to just how special and rare the stone is (not to mention the sentiment) that I have become more concerned about wearing it. I now worry about damaging it or loosing it. What I don’t want to do is worry to the point I don’t enjoy it as that is silly. So I guess I just feel lucky to own something so beautiful and I enjoying carrying the love of my husband around with me whenever I wear it :).
Post # 11
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Busy bee
naturelovebee : Wow that is a gorgeous diamond! Rock that thing with pride and don’t worry about the cost. It will be insured, just ensure it’s insured for loss too and not just damage.
Post # 12
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Helper bee
gabriellagarcia : A little over 2 carats. Thanks! I can’t believe he got it lol. I think 1 carat is big.
msbr : thanks for bringing that up! I assumed loss was included too… so I’ll definitely ask. And thank you 🙂
Post # 13
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Busy bee
naturelovebee : wow! It is absolutely stunning! Try to enjoy it, if you keep think about the cost it might hinder the excitement for you. Your guy wanted you to have this ring and it is amazing!
Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
First, gorgeous diamond! Your ring will be amazing!
I was really worried about wearing something so expensive on my finger all the time. But once my husband proposed, I just loved the ring so much and wanted to wear it all the time and my worries about how expensive it was just faded away.
Post # 15
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Sugar bee
It’s worth noting that there is a difference between cost and value.
The cost is how much money your fiance paid for your ring while the value is how much you love your ring.
It is possible to have rings that are:
high cost; high value
Low cost; high value
High cost; low value
Low cost; low value.
Just make sure that you enjoy your ring.