So…. wearing a lot of money on your finger…

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 16
6272 posts
Bee Keeper

Insure it and don’t worry about it. 


Post # 17
783 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

naturelovebee :  My ring was no where near as expensive as yours, but it is expensive compared to my circle of friends, coworkers and generally to the area I live in. 

Before I got my ring all my friends were having some of the same feelings you describe, asking me how on earth I wasn’t terrified walking around with that kind of money on my finger, and I did think about it but I also thought I would get used to it. 

Now, the truth is somewhere in between. I have gotten used to it in general, but I’m also very much aware of the fact that I’m wearing something that might catch people’s eyes, so I do think about it when I’m walking home alone at night or I’m in a rough neighborhood. I will turn it around so the diamond is in my hand, or put my hand in my pocket etc. But I’m also very cautious by nature and tend to overthink a little, and being a woman walking home alone at night makes me feel vulnerable enough already lol. 

I will say though, my experience with my ring would not make me choose a less expensive ring in the future. So it’s not a big issue for me, but I do think about it sometimes. 

Post # 18
9595 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Just make sure it’s the right size, it’s insured, you NEVER take it off outside your home, and when you do at home it goes straight into a designated ring dish- no counter tops, shelves etc.

My ring is expensive to me but really it just makes me appreciate it even more so, I don’t feel uncomfortable and I never did- I was just excited to own something so gorgeous. Your stone is stunning! Just enjoy.

Post # 19
210 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

We are waiting for the ring setting we selected to arrive. Then we are transferring the center stone from an heirloom family ring. The diamond is almost 2.5 carats. My main concern is keeping the ring safe…not because of the financial cost, but because of the stone’s meaning to my intended. It was originally purchased for his grandmother by his grandfather, then given to his mother and now he has it after her death. But even if it was the daintiest diamond ever, I wouldn’t want anything to happen to it because of its sentimental value.  

Post # 20
168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - The Garrison, NY

Nice rock bee! The first day I put mine on (I know how much was spent on it) I couldn’t help but think “there is a brand new Honda Civic on my finger” and that made we nervous. So insure that thing! Make sure it’s the right size so it doesn’t come off. And get a ring dish! I put mine away during showers, sleep, dishes etc. Good luck!! 

Post # 21
1731 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

It was so weird to adjust too and even now I still look down and I’m like whoa. Until I insured it, I couldn’t even walk around with it because I was so paranoid. Now I’ve mostly forgotten about it but when people comment on it, I’m like… oh yeah! Lol.

Post # 22
9216 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

you’ll get over it.  i was fortunate enough to have my grandmother’s diamond for my ering.  Darling Husband had it reset to my taste.  when he handed me the appraisal sheet to put in my file, i was shocked.  i knew my grandmother would only wear something large, but i wasn’t expecting what the value was.  for the first week, i was so nervous everywhere i went.  then it just became apart of me.

Post # 23
90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

It was definetly weird to get used to. For reference mine was $2200. So not nearly as expensive as other sets but I didn’t grow up with much and I was in college and broke when we got engaged so in my mind that was just a ton of money. Mine is a moissanite stone in a rose gold setting with tiny diamonds and pink sapphires on the bands. I told my now husband that he absolutely did not need to spend a lot of money but he’s a really good saver and really good at paying things off in a timely fashion and when he found my ring he couldn’t say no because of how unique and gorgeous it is. You’ll get used to it, but make sure you have it insured!

Post # 24
1178 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

That is a beautiful stone! Congrats!

My ring is Moissanite, but still expensive because of the stone size and side stones. I only worry about it when I’m in less than favorable areas of downtown for work or if I’m out at night. Sometimes I turn the stone around to my palm, but I don’t get nervous often. I just love it so much, I’d be more heartbroken about losing the ring my Fiance had made for sentimental reasons than financial ones.

Post # 25
1815 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

My brother was horrified I was wearing my rings when I visited him in a big city recently. I don’t think my rings are huge (only 1 carat), but he was shocked I’d wear my rings and risk being mugged 

But… My main stone is laser engraved with an indentification number. All my jewelry is insured. I have photos and appraisals of all the rings. So I’ve done all I can. I don’t want to leave my rings at home in my jewelry box because I’m too afraid to ever wear them. Knowing my luck my rings would be stolen by the guy installing new windows or delivering a new mattress. I figure I’ll wear my rings, enjoy them, and at least I’ve done all I can to identify them and insure them. 

Post # 26
2342 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Wow! That’s going to be gorgeous!

I’m fine as long as my ring is on my finger; the fit is very secure and it’s a simple, strong setting.

On the very rare occasions I’ve accidentally left it in the house while on an errand or out for a run I can’t settle until it’s back in my finger. It’s insured for accidental damage or loss etc. but I’d hate to lose the ring he proposed with that I wore on my wedding day. 

I don’t really think about the monetary cost, it’s the beauty and sentimental value. Two of our cars  cost twice as much my ring and I wouldn’t be distraught if they were written off (assuming no human cost!). I would be devastated with the loss of my ring, – obviously I’d get over it. 

Post # 27
393 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - Porta, Asbury Park NJ

I got engaged 12-6-16! I’ve been feeling the same way! My fiancé had saved for a long time to get me my dream ring. My e-ring has come off, or I’ve taken it off twice in my sleep. Makes me super nervous. As long as it’s insured you should be fine. We just take so much time picking out the perfect diamonds for us, you don’t want to have to replace it. 

Post # 28
200 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

naturelovebee :  that’s gorgeous. Just get it insured. That set my mind at ease. 

Post # 29
5035 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

My Fiance paid a significant amount for my ring but I do not feel odd or vulnerable in anyway.  I think it will grow on you once it is on your finger.

Post # 30
5161 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

kelleyk8087 :  You really should not sleep in your ring. Not only as apparently it is coming off, but as the sheets are not good for the prongs, you may lay your bodyweight on it, etc. Get a pretty ring dish or holder for beside the bed.


OP: honestly, I don’t worry about it. I insure my rings (including for loss and damage), make sure they are properly sized, I take care of them (don’t wear them if say I am scrambling up a mountain side, working out at the gym, or scuba diving). Otherwise, I wear them and enjoy them. Don’t get me wrong, I would be very sad if something happened to my favoured rings, but I really do not go around thinking of the cost of them or comparing the cost to cars and such.

If it would make you feel better, diamonds lose about 30% (more or less) on resale as soon as you take it home, so you just went from a new nice car to an older model sedan. 


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