Post # 1
I just have a curiosity so please bear (sp?) with me here.
In the past couple months I’ve posted quite a few questions for wedding related stuff, but I get a consistent maybe 1 or 2 replies, then thats it. I’m seriously wondering if I have offended someone or said/did something wrong? Or are my posts just lame?
I’m not really new around here, and try to always play nice. I’ve been needing some serious help on these little things considering I seriously do not have a single gf to help research this and I know little to nothing of weddings so I guess I’m a little frustrated.
I think that weddingbee is truly a wonderful place and I always smile at how close everyone here is. You ladies always make me laugh with your furbaby jokes and I cry with your stories of evil FMILs. I know I’m not the most open person. I am going through quite a bit of Father-In-Law strife but I don’t have the guts to post it.
Have my posts come across as I only come here to get a question answered then I disappear? I hope not. I truly enjoy every bit of comradery that is weddingbee, and I often come here so I can drown out my wedding frustrations.
I guess I’m just asking for a bit of honesty here. Am I a lame bee?
Post # 3
I don’t think it’s necessarily that people are ignoring you, just sometimes being unlucky that someone helpful isn’t online when you post perhaps?
Post # 4
Sometimes just bad timing, my threads seem to be lame and are sometimes ignored. :)_ Don’t take it personally. I got married 6 months ago and am happy to help. I’ll look @ your posts and see if I can help in some way.
Post # 5
I totally understand this post and have often thought about it myself.
i think a post’s success has a lot to do with title. It needs to be catchy and fun. Posts should include a picture (if it’s relevant and maybe even if it’s not) and then sometimes it’s just about timing and luck.
You are so not lame!
Post # 6
awww.. this makes me sad. Im sure it is just the timing. Everyone here is great at giving opinions and thoughts. I have actually met a few brides on here that email me and facebook me wedding related questions. It is so nice to have a gf around to run ideas by and them honestly tell you if it is lame or not. Do please feel free to email me here or whereever if you would like to run any wedding ideas by me.
Post # 7
Sometimes I make threads that blow up, sometimes no one responds. I just chalk it up to not catching people at a time when there is a lot of traffic, or maybe my topic wasn’t catchy, who knows!
Post # 8
@LadySapphire: You are certainly not a lame Bee; I think you have some great input and enjoy your presence on the boards. Sometimes I hit bad luck when it comes to the timing of my posts. For instance, if a lot of people are online, their threads may bump yours to the bottom. Nothing personal! I have never been put off by anything you’ve had to say.
Post # 9
I felt like this was happening to me a lot. I think that having more detailed titles helps (I know I am more likely to click when someone says “Help me pick cursive font for invitation” than just “Invitations!”). I think the time of day also makes a difference. I do most of my posting on weekday mornings, which is really not a busy time on the hive, so I never expect too many answers.
Post # 10
I think it may be a matter of perception and timing. Not every post has pages of replies- in fact, most don’t. Typically if someone is asking for ideas they get a few then the topic goes too far down on the message board to be noticed and fades away.
It is mostly the controversial posts that last longer.
If you are asking specific questions e.g the circlet post,or directing your posts to a specific group e.g military brides, you further narrow down the number of people who will be able to respond.
Also, weekend posts tend not to get a lot of traffic.
Don’t take it personally. It ‘s definitely not personal here on the Bee- we don’t even know each other.
Post # 11
No worries, I don’t think there is any diskliked Bees! Its really just a matter of who is on and what else is going on. If there is a huge controversial 100 + response thread, people are often not catchign what goes by.
Also if its an easily answerable question that people post frequently for the same thing, sometimes its just a response or two thats needed and people figured its already been satisfied!
I’ll have to take a peek at what you have posted on 😉
Post # 12
You all are so sweet. 🙂
I was curious if it was a title issue. I know I’m not the most imaginative at times, lol.
I do try to bump the post at different times so both night and day bees get a chance.
Post # 13
My posts dont get alot of responses sometimes also. I think that it has a lot to do with timing, and who is on when as well as how eye catching the titles are.
Post # 14
Ha! I feel the SAME way! I’ll check my “profile” page and there are SO many threads that say “Replied 3 days ago. No replies since.” I call myself the thread-killer. I almost feel like it would be better if I DON’T reply on some peoples threads b/c maybe then they won’t go unnoticed! 😛 Seriously though, I think it’s GOT to be timing. I think you’re a lovely bee!!! It also helps that we’re bday twins! 😉
Post # 15
Aaawww, you are one of my fave Bees. I don’t always see some posts as I am usually only on late at night and can occasionally catch some posts during the day. My phone isn’t the best for responding, but I read posts all day.
We all have posts that get very little traffic and some that blow up. I really don’t think that there is an rhyme or reason for it but sometimes it is title and sometimes it is timing. Some days there is just a ton of traffic on the boards and posts go off the first page so quickly and other times the traffic is so slow that it takes forever to get a response.
Post # 16
Don’t worry, same here! It’s all about timing/subject titles, ect!