(Closed) So what are y’all planning?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: What is your dream wedding!
    The bigger the better... I want it all! (300 guests and a fireworks display!) : (5 votes)
    10 %
    Small intimate ceremony : (35 votes)
    69 %
    Eloping in secret/Destination wedding : (8 votes)
    16 %
    Eh, I just want to go to the courthouse! : (3 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    2892 posts
    Sugar bee

    The whole idea of planning a wedding seems nightmarish to say the least. To me. This is just my opinion. I’ve heard way to many stories about the horrors of planning that the most I’ve really looked at is what our wedding bands could look like. If I got my way I’d make a trip to the court house. Hoping when the time comes my guy can take up most of the wedding planning. He’s worked in the restaurant industry all his life, has catered several weddings and attended as a guest to even more.

    My guy showed me what he’d like as a wedding band a little while back so I like looking at that. I was surprised how cheap even some of the nicer men’s bands are. So I’m trying to find something a little more expensive for him 🙂

    Post # 5
    413 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I didn’t choose any of them. I’m in between the big wedding and intimate ceremony. I think we’ll have about 90 to 120 guest. With my family being Italian, there’s no such thing as a small wedding, lol. Because if you don’t invite your dad’s cousin’s sister-in-laws’ brother… You’re gonna hear about it after the wedding. And my god, don’t even think about eloping!


    Post # 7
    1566 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I would like something on the smaller side (50ish guests)…but it will probably end up around the 100 guest mark…we will be paying for the wedding ourselves so I will probably try to keep the guest count in check!

    Post # 8
    2892 posts
    Sugar bee

    @Hbomb84: At one point I thought I could get excited about a wedding. But it’s like weddings bring the worst out in people. It’s supposed to be a happy time. Instead everyone is stressed, no one is happy, people get selfish, and nothing you do will be right because someone will have a problem with something even though it’s not their wedding. 🙂 I would like a wedding. But it’s like that backlash is the catch. I don’t like things with a catch. Maybe I’ve just read one too many war stories. Tongue out But my guy wants a wedding and I think we’ll have to compromise on something for about 50 ppl.

    Are you going to actually elope or do you think you’ll end up doing something small?

    Post # 10
    2408 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I also didn’t vote because our planned shindig is between the small, intimate one and the large one. Right now I’m estimating maybe 160-175 people attending, though I’m hoping the actual turnout is around 150. 

    Post # 11
    270 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Honestly, I just want to go to the courthouse, have a nice dinner with the parents and close family and be done with it. My fiance, however, is dead set on having this huge, eleborate affair with all of our HUGE families and tons of friends. We will need to compromise….

    Post # 12
    361 posts
    Helper bee

    I would go to courthouse, but my SO wants a wedding, with me in a dress. So we’re planning a private ceremony, and a small reception at a friends house. Small, sweet, and he’ll get me in a dress. 

    Post # 13
    1088 posts
    Bumble bee

    I would prefer a small(ish) wedding with 50-75 of our closest friends and family, and he wants a bigger party.  I’m from a rather large family, and even a small family get-together for us is 40+ people.  He too is from a big family, so getting away with 50-75 guests is probably impossible. . .unless we to a destination wedding!

    Our families are from different major cities hudreds of miles apart.  It seems fair to have a wedding at a more neutral location. 

    @Hbomb84:  I, too, would love to have a very small ceremony with my parents and closest friends, but even that for us would be around 20 people.  Part of me wishes we could just elope, but I don’t think that’s possible with a big Irish-Catholic family and a big Asian family!

    Post # 14
    923 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I did a smallish semi-destination wedding the first time around and even that is a PITA.  He went to the courthouse the first time around and has said that he wouldn’t mind doing it again.  I think that we might meet in the middle this time and just plan a honeymoon and get married wherever we decide to go. 


    Now if I can just keep it a secret so that my BFF’s feelings don’t get hurt.  I went with her and her DH/family to Vegas last summer for thier wedding.

    Post # 15
    171 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I would love to have something tiny, somewhere far away and beautiful. The bf wants the big wedding though, so we’ll probably end up with something more like that

    Post # 16
    684 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    @KatM:  That’s what I want!  A small, destination wedding… like very small. But my boyfriend wants a bigger wedding 100-150 people. :/ I really just want it to be us.

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