Post # 32
For about the first 15 months of our relationship I avoided calling her anything. I would just make eye contact and refer to her as “your mom” when talking to my Fiance. Once we started planning this monster of a wedding, I started calling her by her nickname that everyone calls her.
As for the Future Gma In Law, I call her Mrs. ____ because she is very old school and has never told me to call her anything different.
Loving this thread. It’s weird to think that this is culture-dependent. 🙂
Post # 33
LOL! on the monster in law comments and “the B!tc7” comments… oh, oh… oh. I feel you all. I call mine Mrs. ______ (first name)
Post # 34
I think DH, Mother-In-Law and Father-In-Law would really love it if I would call them “Mom” and “Dad” (DH was beyond touched when I entered his parent’s address as Mom and Dad in our GPS address book) but for now, I call them by their first names, and DH calls my parents by their first names.
Post # 35
I call her by her first name
Post # 36
I call her Mom, and my parents call each others’ parents Mom and Dad. 🙂
Post # 37
Right now i refer to Future Mother-In-Law as firstname, but the other children-in-law call her mom, so I guess I will too once we’re married. I used to call her Mrs.Lastname but she insisted that I use her first name.
My mom always called my paternal grandparents Mr. and Mrs. I don’t remember what my dad called my maternal grandmother (she passed away when I was young), but he always calls my grandfather Grandaddy, which I think is weird. Kinda like when people refer to their spouse as mom or dad. Ick.
Post # 38
My parents died over 20 tears ago and I am THRILLED to have such wonderful and truly loving in-laws. So cool to be someone’s “kid” again. I call them MaMa and PaPa; of course with just a hint of a French accent. I am the only DIL that does that.
Post # 39
I don’t know if its a German thing, but my parents have always called each others parents mom and dad. My Grampa once told me that my dad is the only son in law that calls him dad and he wishes the other son in laws would do it. I guess thats why my dad is the fav sil! I’d like to call Future Mother-In-Law Mom, she only has sons and nephews, no sisters, daughters, nieces, just one Sister in law. thats how we grew up, but I’m not sure how to ask her if its ok?
Post # 40
@JessesGirl: I read your post and thought, “She must be from the south.” 😀
I called my Future Mother-In-Law Mrs. Lastname until after a few years, when she took me aside and insisted on her first name. So I avoided calling her anything for a while because that was so awkward for me, but now I’m used to it. My fiance will probably always call my mom Ms. Firstname. That’s what she feels is appropriate, and he’d feel weird calling her anything else.
It’s funny, my mom called her Mother-In-Law Mother. Not Mom or Ma, but Mother. But I think the fiance and I would feel weird calling each other’s parents anything like mom or dad. His grandmother on the other hand, I’ll call Grandma too.
Post # 41
I guess I’m in the group that doesn’t call her anything, really. I just talk to her without a “title” like mom or Mrs. __ or anything, and when talking to Fiance I say “your mom” or “FI’s mom” to anyone else. I suppose if I had to address her I’d still say Mrs. Lastname… she actually worked in the counseling department at my HS, so I was calling her that before I was even dating Fiance, lol.
But I’m already calling his grandma, his only living grandparent, “grandma” even though both of my grandmas are alive still, and both are wonderful. His grandma’s just the sweetest lady ever and she makes me feel like her own granddaughter.
Post # 42
Her first name. Fi’s grandparents want me to call them Granddaddy and Grandma (last Name) which is super hard for me. I have my own grandparents. But they are old and it isn’t worth the battle.
Post # 44
Her first name. I don’t think we’ll ever be close enough for me to call her Mum.
Post # 45
I call her by her first name. I call my FI’s grandmother Grandma about half the time and by her first name about the other half. Fiance does the same with my family.
A good solution is to wait til you have kids – and then call her grandma. No one can take offence to that, and it’s way less awkward than calling her Mom.
Post # 46
@miss.nicole: I think you might be right, my family is German, too.