(Closed) So what do you call your Mother In Laws?

posted 10 years ago in Family
Post # 62
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I plan to keep calling them by their first names. It would just be so awkward for me to do anything other than that, especially since although I like them I am not close to them (heck, Fiance isn’t all that close to them).  I think they’re fine with it, which is good because it would terribly uncomfortable if I found out they wanted me to call them “mom and dad” since I’d probably have to tell them the truth and say I can’t–then I’d have to run away and remain hiding from them for some long period.

Post # 63
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We call the in laws Mom. It was kind of what they preferred and my Mother-In-Law asked her to call me that.

Post # 64
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 1900

I call his parents by their first names and he calls my parents by their first names.  We are going on 8 years now.  For the first 5 or so we didn’t really address each other’s parents using any specific names.  Then one day I asked him to ask his parents what they would like me to call them, and I asked my parents what they would like then-bf to call them.  Both sets of parents told us to call them by their first names.

Post # 65
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Mrs. Lastname.  Same thing with Future Father-In-Law it’s Mr. Lastname.  I don’t envision being invited to call them by their first name ever. My mom insisted my Fiance call her by her firstname but after she caused some wedding drama, we’re not really talking to her anymore.

Post # 66
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I think it’s a generational thing.  Both my parents called their inlaws Mom and Dad.  I could not imagine calling my Mother-In-Law anything but her first name.  I don’t think I would like my husband calling my parents mom and dad either.  Maybe I’m just selfish, they are MY parents. Wink

Post # 67
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

My mom calls my parents names MomaX and DaddyX (spanish version sounds normal), cause it’s they way they wanted us kids to call them (they hate grandma and grandpa) so she started calling them that so we’ll follow her and it just stuck.

I just call mine by their first names. Fiance calls my parents Mr. and Mrs. ___

Post # 68
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I call them by their first name. I can’t imagine ever calling them mom or dad…

Post # 69
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Mom….but I have been calling her that since I lived with them briefly my senior year of high school. Fiance and I have been best friends since that far back. My son has been calling her Grandma since he was born.

Post # 70
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I call mine mum and dad. My parents are mama and papa so are my grandparents and my friends parents. That’s what we do in my culture. Any female older than me including SIL is sister or aunty if they have children and males are called brother and uncle respectively. I also call any of my friends who are quite older than me sister

My DH being caucasian struggled with this at first and he now happily calls my dad Papa. His family wonders how many sisters, brothers, aunties etc that I have and find it very hilarious that I automatically callpeople I meet sister, brother etc.

They respect that it my culture and I have told them 33 is too old to start learning new habits lol

Post # 71
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I call her by her first name.

Post # 72
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I call my in-laws Ma’am and Sir. My Future Father-In-Law is cool enough to call him by his first name but my Future Mother-In-Law is super old fashioned, so to keep it balanced, I came up with that.

Post # 73
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Wannabee

I usually try not to address her. Haha, I’ve been battling with this too. I will NEVER call her mom/ma/mother. We just do not have that relationship. I just try to avoid that situation. 

But I call his nanny (his mom’s mom) nanny. She’s just the sweetest woman in the world.

Post # 74
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I call both of my IL’s by their first names. Always have and always will. I could never call them “Mom” and “Dad” because they’re not my parents. My mom earned that title so no one else gets it. DH calls my parents by their first names, too. 

Post # 75
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m really close with my Future Mother-In-Law, I call her mom, Future Father-In-Law is dad. The grandmas are called grandma (last name). My mother called her Mother-In-Law mom so it was normal for me, but my mom is “ma” or “mama”. She hated it at first, but then it grew on her so it’s special between us.

Fiance calls my parents by their names, but he calls my maternal grandmother “nana”. She made it very clear to my elementary school bus driver, teachers, and any one who ever dared call her grandma that “I am a NANA, I am not a grandma”. That lesson stuck and I’ve explained that to anyone who has ever met her. We all call paternal grandma Nana (First Name).

Post # 76
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

By their first names. My husband calls my mom Mom though, which suits the situation because she truly treats him like her son, and his mom is what she is and we don’t speak to her any more. I do think of his dad as my second dad though, we lived with him for 4 years so I got really close to his dad.

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