Post # 77
In my cultural tradition it’s disrespectful not to call the in-laws mom and dad. In my tradition it has nothing to do with how you feel about them, or your relationship to them. It’s just like calling an adult when you’re a kid Mr and Mrs… doesn’t matter who they are or if you like them. So, I call my in-laws mom and dad. Feels a little weird, but I’m sure I’ll get used to it 🙂
Post # 78
I call my in-laws by their first names except for his grandparents I call them what he calls them and it feels completely natural 🙂
Post # 79
@MrsNeutrino: LOL your response made me feel better. My knee-jerk answer to this question was “Satan” and then I started reading all the nice/serious responses and was like “Well, I’M a jerk.”
Nah, I’m just kidding… It depends on the context for me. I usually refer to her as “[FI’s name]’s Mom” or sometimes by her first name. If I have to directly address her, it’s “Mrs. So and So.” I don’t think I’ll ever be able to call her Mom, nor do I think she’d want me to! She’s a little… uptight.
Post # 80
Satan…when we have kids I’ll call her by her first name, but she will likely never be mom or grandma to anyone. FI’s grandma, on the other hand, I call her Granny J just like the rest his family does, she is the best woman and is like a mother to him.
Post # 82
I avoid calling her anything, and if I have to address her, I call her Mrs.___ for now. She’s insisted I call her Mom when we get married, but we aren’t even close. She really doesn’t want to know what I refer to her as when not in passing lol. So, I’ll still call her Mrs._____ if I HAVE to address her. But, I’m in the camp of avioding a title camp and just make eye contact. And, in emails I say Greetings, or Good Morning. No added Good Morning Mom, like I’d do with my own mommy. There’s only one mom. I told Fiance not to feel obligated to call my parents mom and dad. That’s kinda weird to impose on someone who did not raise you or you grew up with your whole life!
Post # 83
I don’t really talk to her so I don’t think I’ve ever had to call her anything. It’s more like hey you.
I guess I’d just call her by her first name. I’d never ever ever call her mom. I usually refer to her as hisname’s mom. He calls her “mother.”
He calls my mother mom though and my father calls him son.
Post # 84
I try not to call them at all if I can help it 😛 I call them Mom and Tata, but I don’t feel so comfortable with that since we’re not all that close…it just feels more natural though than calling them Mr. and Mrs. X
Post # 85
I call her by her first name. She’s not my mom, so I have no reason to ever call her that.
ETA: just noticed I posted the same thing on this thread 10 months ago.
Post # 86
if you are really skilled, you will be able to go 20 years without addressing her by anything. I know of a few such people but I guess you want to make a decision now.
Post # 87
My SO’s mother has passed away long ago, so I would never have that “problem” but I know for sure, I would just call her by her first name.
Post # 88
I don’t think I’ll call my Future Mother-In-Law anything other than her name. She’s a lovely person but I can’t see myself ever calling her mom.
Post # 89
I’m seeing a trend with the culture. It’s also rude in mine to call in-laws (or any respected elders) by their first name, so I call my in-laws mom and dad, and vice-versa with my husband. Our parents know we call our in-laws mom and dad. They’d even likely scold us for being rude if we didn’t.
Post # 90
I’ll call her by her first name.
Post # 91
when i’m talk ing to them directly I call them by their first names. When I’m talking about them to other people I call them _____’s parents.