(Closed) So what’s different?

posted 9 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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1718 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country

I have a larger sense of contentment and security.  I’m not constantly looking ahead to the next "stage" in our lives… I feel like I’ve reached a place that I want to be in, and it is very comfortable.  I can tell my husband feels the same way.  Neither of us are looking at eachother with expectant eyes… we just kind of live and exist together.  It sounds like a subtle change, but to me, it is huge!

Post # 4
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1573 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I feel secure and I feel like I am not alone anymore

Post # 5
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1854 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

For me, the biggest change was going from dating to being engaged – especially since we waited to be engaged before moving in together. But living together wasn’t the biggest change, it was more the fact that we had made this decision, this commitment to spend our lives together… The wedding was the celebration of that decision that was already made… More like an official reiteration of this promise (and so, so special!). But I didn’t feel a big change after the wedding…
It is more relaxed now that the planning is over.. We’re planning other trips, but these don’t include guests and weddings so it’s less stressful! 🙂

Post # 6
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2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Not much has changed. We lived together for like four years before marriage, so any changes that popped up were small. Here are a few I can think of:

– I traded all my fashion magazine subscriptions for house magazines. Like Real Simple and Better Homes and Gardens. I dunno what happened! I used to love getting my Glamour in the mail every month, but shortly before the wedding, and right after, I suddenly had no interest in them anymore, and found myself obsessed with decor and homemaking.

– We do our laundry together now. It’s weird, in the four years we lived together, we still did separate laundry all the time. Now we combine loads.

– We file our taxes together (duh)/

– We love introducing each other as “my wife” and “my husband.” I still get giddy when it happens 🙂

Post # 7
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6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

i feel like i already had that “secure” feeling before. when we were engaged, i hated my job (like to the point of it was making me crazy depressed) so i quit and my fi started supporting me (as i planned the wedding). he was there for me in every way possible. we haven’t been married for a week yet so i don’t know if i can answer the question yet… but i’m just at a ‘it’s weird to have a husband and be a wife’ phase. it’s not that i’m not super excited to be married to him and spend the rest of my life with him, but for some reason the titles are weirding me out!

Post # 8
Bee
2362 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

I’m not married yet, but I am interested to hear (read?) everyone’s responses to this question.  I hear that all the time that “something” is different but it can’t be explained.  We’ve been together for 5 years, living together for almost, and we co-own a cat, so it’s hard to see what will be different! (Though I know it’s naive to think that nothing will change, so I’m just looking forward with excitment!)

Post # 9
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445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I usually say, “Well, sometimes it’s more romantic.  Then someone farts and it’s back to the same.” 

Post # 10
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1508 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

A whole lot is different but they again we didn’t live together before marriage.

Post # 11
Hostess
16215 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I’m expecting a lot to be different too, kayak, because we aren’t living together till after we’re married. But I’m so interested in these responses anyway!

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