(Closed) "So what's wrong with you?" VENT

posted 8 years ago in Career
Post # 3
5949 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Punkin, there’s nothing wrong with you.  We live in a job market where Harvard undergrads are willing to jump into a cage match over a seasonal window dressing job and Macy’s….it sucks, not you.

Post # 4
3354 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

girl, I know one of the top law scholars in her university who wasn’t offered a job after her internship. there were Harvard Law students in her internship group too that were cast off. It’s not you.

Post # 5
1088 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@howtobeawife:  Totally rude of her to say “what’s wrong with you” BUT to speak from another perspective and I could be totally wrong but judging from your post and your post alone – I might wonder why you didn’t just apply to more positions (even if it is not exactly what you are looking for – experience is experience) or make an effort to become more qualified to fulfill other positions in the field that are in demand(ie- go back to school)…two years is a long time to just do “nothing” and idle time does not look good to an employer and they may wonder the same thing as your friend. (again not saying you are doing NOTHING but this is what the information you posted suggests)..

ETA: I understand searching for a job can be stressful, but if I were you I would try as much as I could to be resourceful and build up my resume so that I stand out from every other candidate…every year you are unemployed, more qualified candidates will graduate, making it even more competitive and unless you build up that resume with jobs that exhibit the skillsets of the position you are applying for (even if it is not “THE JOB”), it will only become more difficult for you to get that dream position.

Post # 6
1425 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

OMG. She’s so rude! Woman has no tact! I’m sorry you have to work with her. 🙁

Post # 8
1088 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

have you considered going back to school? Many schools have work-study programs for those with and without financial aid. You could go back to school and potentially work at a position within the school until you become more qualified for the job you really want.

Post # 9
195 posts
Blushing bee

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@soy:  I second this.

Despite experience a lot of places wont look twice at you unless you have a degree.  I work full-time and have lots of experience but it doesnt matter for the job I want.  I am back at school part-time doing my masters in order to even apply for the position.

Post # 10
1088 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m sorry, I misread your original post…my response was for someone who is unemployed and I realize now that you do in fact have a job! It looks like going back to school is the best bet 🙂

Post # 13
4282 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

WOW! The nerve of some people! Dont’ let it get you down, there is nothing wrong with you!

Post # 14
1088 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

wow that’s awesome! You made it sound like you are not doing much when in fact you are doing everything you could be doing (working AND going to school AND planning a wedding? props to you!)…your co-worker sounds like she is just trying to make you feel bad (possible insecurities herself and wants to take them out on you) or that could just be her way of saying things and I wouldn’t take it personally but some people need to learn to keep their mouths shut!

Post # 15
11231 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Ugh, I’m sorry, hon. I’ve applied for over 500 jobs in the last five years, most of which I was perfectly qualified for, and got ZERO response. The two jobs that I DID get I was laid off from. I really got into a bad place of “What the fuck is wrong with me?” I still get there sometimes, and I HAVE a degree (two, actually). I applied for a new job this weekend and got an almost immediate rejection. BLAH.

One of my bffs/BMs has applied for two internal positions with the company that she’s worked for for like five years. She is MORE than qualified for both of them, and was rejected from both. The most recent one was narrowed down to her and one other person for a second interview. She never got her second interview, and found out that they were just going to keep postponing it instead of telling her that she “wasn’t qualified” for the job…that they gave to the other person who’d worked a low man position at that company for all of three months. I worked for that company briefly and it’s definitely not her, it’s them. 

Post # 16
9948 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Hang in there…

Your time will come.

Once you have your Degree done, then you’ll also have RELATIVE experience, something that a lot of folks don’t have.

And ya, in this economic climate in the USA, it probably is quite wise that you are working and going to school at the same time… and BONUS that it is with an Employer who is paying your Tuition (all very wise IMO).

So in addition to everything else… you should also come away post-Degree without a lot of debt hanging over your head too boot.  CONGRATULATIONS on that… as I know plenty of folks who otherwise find they are working and struggling to pay-off that burden for many years.


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