(Closed) So when are you going to have kids?

posted 12 years ago in Babies
Post # 32
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Bumble bee

My goal is to pregnant with my first child by the time I’m 30. Since I’m already 26, that gives me a few more years of freedom! 🙂

Post # 33
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I have one and he has two.

We *Might* still want one, but it’ll be up to my doc and after we’re married.  I’ll be an elderly para gravida!

Post # 34
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I actually don’t want kids, we have fur babies–as of right now, just one, shelter cat: Warhol. We saved him from getting killed, but no kids for us, I am a wild one, who wants to see the world.

Post # 35
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

We have already started trying.  We hope to have our first baby within the next year. 

Post # 36
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

We are in the group of no kids in our future. We talked about it before we got married and both were adament that we didn’t want kids. My husband says that he’d get the snip snip so I can go off birth control. I still don’t see us having kids but when he mentioned having the surgery in the next year or two I asked what he would do if I changed my mind and he said he would get it reversed and support me in anything I wanted (I’m only 25 and could, but don’t see myself, change my mind)

Post # 37
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

We’ve been asked a few times already (we’ll have been together over four years by wedding day, and we’re both in our late 20s), but not with too much regularity. I’m sure it will start up after we’re married, but I have two planned answers: if it’s someone who really has no business asking, I’m going to tell them we’re barren (that will shut them up, I think! an inappropriate question deserves an inappropriate answer!), and if it’s family, then it’ll just be "When we’re ready." We actually would love to start trying soon after the wedding, but it’s really an issue of financial stability. When we get there, we’ll get there.

Post # 38
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We don’t really get asked this and that’s fine by me. We’re getting married in early summer 2010 and then we’re both graduating the next year (EdD for me, MBA for him) so it’ll definitely be after that.

His dad (mostly kiddding) told us about a year before we got engaged (dating for 3+ years) that he really wanted to be a grandpa and and he’d overlook the whole “married” thing if that’s how we wanted to do it. The FIL’s aren’t pressuring us, but they’ve definitely got the grandparent bug.

Post # 39
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

We haven’t had our wedding yet and people are already asking. My co-workers are constantly making comments. My parents are asking me if it’s going to be next year.  They would love it to be soon after the wedding.  The worst I would have to say is my Future Mother-In-Law because last week when we went to go visit her she had this magazine on the table:

when I asked her who it was for she said, "for you because you need to start getting ready to have kids you know." Ahh seriously I’m not even finished with the wedding planning and they are already trying to get me to have kids.  They want more grandkids and all I want to do is finish school.  

 

Post # 40
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Worker bee

dude, we were only married a few months and our families are already asking us when we’re having kids.

Post # 41
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I have been asked by multiple people since we got engaged.  We’ve been together for nearly 8 years so I think that’s why people assume we’ll want to try right after the wedding.  But I’m only 22, Fiance 24.  If you would have asked me 2-3 years ago, I would probably have said I want to try on the honeymoon… Things have changed lol.  I have always loved kids and cannot wait to be a mother but right now more than anything I just want time with my husband.  We want to travel a little bit, when funds allow.  I want to have a good career, and we want to make sure we’ll have enough income to support a child.  We’re thinking 2 years then start trying 🙂

Post # 42
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I was asked this at our rehearsal dinner. When I said in a few years, the woman congratulated me on finding a man willing to work around my career schedule (!).

Post # 43
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

We will begin trying as soon as I land a new job closer to home, which will probably take some time. I’m no spring chicken (33) and want to have my first child before I’m 35. So I’m hoping I’ll be pregnant less than a year into our marriage.

Post # 44
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

My Fiance and I have been engaged since last November, but have been together since June 2003. We’ve been getting the question from friends and family since 2006…

 We’re planning to start trying in January.

Post # 45
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Well, we haven’t had to deal with the questions, because we’re not married yet! =D (And we’re only 18 and 19). But I’m hoping to have kids (or, rather, one kid) before we’re 25 (we’ll be getting married when we’re 21 and 22, so we’ll have a 3-year window).

Post # 46
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We don’t get the questions because we aren’t married yet and because we are young (21 and 23, 22 and 24 when we get married). I feel for you bees that do!

Fiance and I know we won’t have kids for at least 2 years. Right after we get married, we’ll be moving to a new city for FI’s job, but he will only be working there for 2 years. The city we’ll be living in is really far away from both of our families. Since we are young, we aren’t on any kind of timeline to have a baby – our top priorities are being close to one of our families and being in a financial position that I can be a stay at home mom how I have always wanted.

Anyone in the hive want to be a stay at home mom one day? And is anyone concerned that they will have problems having kids? My big worry is that we will wait til our late 20s / early 30s and find out we have fertility issues.

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