(Closed) So when are you going to have kids?

posted 12 years ago in Babies
Post # 47
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

we don’t really get asked alot but i think since we’ve been together for so long that people assume will have kids right after we get married, but I def want to wait awhile!!

Post # 48
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290 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We don’t get asked too often, if ever, because we are pretty young (24 and 26 at the wedding) and are both in tough grad programs. Our families know what we’d like to do, and those are the only people we’d share that info with anyway. Sometimes friends of mine ask, but I don’t care when they ask– they actually care about and respect whatever answer I’d give them! I’m so sorry for those bees out there who get the pesky stranger or distant relative inquisitions…! 

 We’d like to be married and just be "us" for a few years while Mr. finishes school and I establish myself in my career. But we’ll probably start trying when I’m 28 or 9, so like in 5 or 6 years.  

Post # 49
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416 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - Imperia Hotel (modern chic hotel)

Im not on the pill anylonger so if I happen to get pregnant then GREAT… but we just purchased our first home and thats our baby for now, so honestly, I wouldnt mind waiting til our 2 year mark

Post # 50
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

We brought a bit of this on ourselves…at our wedding we had a wedding wish bowl, and people could write down favourite memories, advice, or predictions for our future. It went over really well, and many people predicted that they would be hearing baby news in the next year. So now we have these people asking us all the time if we’re pregnant, hopingtheir prediction will come true lol

Post # 51
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

It’s funny because one of my husband’s nephews asked when we are going to have kids. At 50 years old, I told the young man that if I get pregnant, they will have to write a new book for the bible and name it after ME!

Post # 52
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

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I want to have kids before I’m 30, I’m 25 now so we decided on 3-5 years.

Post # 53
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I have a 6 year old, so you’d think people would back off.  But no.  They still ask rude questions.  But as I am 32, we plan to start trying for ONE more pretty immediately after the wedding.

Post # 54
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I want to wait at least another year or two, and I think hubby is sort of in the same timeframe. He wants to wait until we are settled in a different location than we are now, which could be in 1 or 2 years, or not for another 3-4 years. As long as I get to do some international traveling at least once a year leading up to baby making, I’m willing to wait a while 🙂 I really want to see the world!

Post # 55
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We aren’t really sure about the future with kids.  Right now we are trying to get ourselves settled into jobs, finish up school and get a new house.  My husband was actually asked at the reception when we are going to have kids!  That is just so rude to me!

Post # 56
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I think it’s an incredibly rude question, and I flat out tell people that it’s a crapshoot considering my cervix is all but gone, but thanks for asking. That usually shuts them up.

However, we are going to start immediately following the wedding, since i’m 32 and we want quite a few, not to mention that it really is a crapshoot, because I really don’t have much of a cervix left.

Post # 57
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231 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Since I have a few more years in school, we have decided to wait until I’m about to graduate, or graduated. He’ll be done a year and a half sooner than me, but he still insists on waiting until we both have steady sources of income. I have the baby bug now and we’re not even married yet! I want to start popping out babies as soon as we’re married, but I know we’re not financially ready or ready as a couple.

Post # 58
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Bumble bee

We decided between 30 and 35.  Plenty of time to get settled and established, enjoy ourselves, do what we want, blahblahblah, and early enough that it shouldn’t be too much of a problem.

I mean, our mothers had us pretty late, and we turned out fine…

Too bad for his mom, she’s itching for a grandkid, and figures it’s not coming from her daughter, so she bothers us about it.  

Post # 59
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

we’re aiming for 5 years after the wedding date; we’ll be mid-30s and hopefully settled in our careers and financially by then.

I don’t feel offended when loved ones ask about our plans – I just answer truthfully “in 5 years”.  I will openly confess that I ask my friends what their plans are with children, I don’t see it as rude; quite the opposite, I love them and I am genuinely interested.  I would hope that if they were uncomfortable about my questions they would let me know; all my friends so far have gone into detailed accounts of their plans, so I guess they’re cool with it.

Post # 60
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I have a 12 year old so I’d be ok with not havimg anymore but we pushed up our wedding date cause he wants me knocked up asap. im getting off birth control may 30 (im on the shot) and our wedding date is june 16 and while we wont do the whole “we are trying” we will basically just pull the goalie and let it happen when it happens. People give me a funny look when I tell them this.

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