(Closed) So when do I really need to figure all of this out?

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

Janna- I didn’t even think into this stuff for one second until I was past my 20th week.  I just didn’t feel well enough.

Also, I have weird baby superstitions that I didn’t want to do too much planning until we knew we were past the stage of viability.  Even now, we’re not buying anything (yet).

Don’t worry, it will start to happen naturally when you are ready!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

I think it’s all a matter of when you are ready.  You’ll know.  For a lot of women it doesn’t happen until the nesting phase in the third trimester.  For me it has been a constant struggle NOT to prepare.  But part of that is because I have definite ideas on what the decor will be, and what would be reasonable for a car seat, etc.  I didn’t want to leave some of the things I thought were important up to my generous parents and inlaws.  I bought the car seat right away.  A lot of it also has to do with coupons and sales.  BabiesRUs had a clearance sale and I got the bedding set for 65% off.  Then my mom sent me Roo Bucks which expire, so I bought a stroller with those and a coupon I had for 20% off any one item.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

We didn’t register and such until after I knew the sex of the baby.  I bought a few things early because it was yardsale season and I love a bargain πŸ™‚  But we really waited on everything else until the third trimester.

However, I made a huge mistake in waiting until the third trimester to start really looking into child birthing techniques.  I wanted to do natural child birth but didn’t really have time to do any of the programs.  Plus, as I started to talk to my Ob-gyn about my wishes / birth plan I came to realize that he and I didn’t see eye to eye. 

Unfortunately by that point I didn’t feel comfortable changing doctors so I just had to make due.  I really wish I would have looked into it early on. And I wish I would have interviewed multiple dr’s in the first trimester (or even the second).  It all worked out, but it could have been a million times better.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Like DG, I didn’t even start thinking about things until after the 20 week ultrasound. I have had a few miscarriages and I just couldn’t let myself plan for anything until I felt “out of the woods.” I guess it’s a protective mechanism or something… don’t worry. When the time is right you’ll know. You’re doing the best thing you can right now, which is taking care of yourself. You’ve got plenty of time to prepare!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2007 - Rosary Chapel & Monterey Marriott, Monterey, CA

I think you’ll find the “right” time. I’m still way behind on buying lots of things, but not in any sort of panic mode as I arrive at Week 36. πŸ™‚  I live 2 miles from Target… I figure the world won’t end if it’s not all in the house the second I need it!

We’ve bought the stroller, car seat and daily needs (diapers/wipes/etc) all within the last 3 weeks. πŸ™‚

p.s. The Baby Bargains book is a savior for the decision making process on lots and lots of things!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

I agree, I’m 9.5 weeks and I feel the same way.  I might make my hubs do some of the product research, since he can help in that way, and I’ll do the nursery ‘design’, etc.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2007

I’m in week 14 and haven’t done a thing.  All we have is a pair of baby cowboy boots my brother gave me at Christmas and a quilt my grandmother made for the baby.  We sometimes throw around some baby names but even that is rare.  I spend more time thinking about all the delivery options as I read blogs… not really what I need for baby!  I’m not worried though.

I’ve heard good things about the baby bargain book too.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

By around your 20th -25th week you’ll want to register, you’ll have baby showers people will want to buy stuff for and honestly it’s easier to walk around, be on your feet and stuff earlier than later.  Plus the more time you give yourself, you won’t be too rushed. 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

i went kind of crazy when i was pregnant…i had the babies room decorated by the time i was 4 months…but that was extreme!! i agree with snowflake, the second trimester is the best to do that sort of stuff, at that point you should have some energy back (thru the morning sickness and not so huge you cant walk!) so its a great time to get what you can done!! Good luck!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I think some of it depends on your personality also. I’m a planner so I have been looking at strollers, car seats etc since the beginning. I wanted to have to time to read reviews and not end up with something that I didn’t like. 

I’m holding off on patterns and fabrics tho. I’m too worried I’ll pick one and then see something else I like better. 

 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Basically I started reading up on everything I could from the get-go.  I signed up on Babycenter.com and that was my FAV site!!  I didn’t really look into car seats and strollers until I was getting ready to register.  Make sure you check on ConsumerReports.com.  That is the best place to get advice about buying baby things!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

As soon as I knew I was pregnant, I was researching products and figuring out how I would want the nursery to look but I haven’t done any physical work yet and I will be 20 weeks on Friday. The only baby related items I have are a few small things our parents gave to us. Anything currently on the registry is gender neutral but we should find out the gender on Thursday and if we do, I will be breaking loose and starting to fill out the registry and starting to purchase items.

So I think you will know when the time is right and I would probably wait until your 2nd trimester to start purchasing items (if you can wait that long).

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

Janna- I’ve used Consumer Reports and the various expert sites… so for diapers I found a couple of cloth diapering communities where people rate diapers, for baby carriers I found a community of people who specialize in all things babywearing.  It’s crazy how many different specialty communities with amazing in-depth knowledge are out there!

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