(Closed) So when IS the right age to get married? ….Just a little rant….

posted 5 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

sounds like for you, 24 is the perfect age to get married! 🙂

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

The norm in my family is after graduating college (the basic bachelor’s), around 22. 

(I’m not saying there actually is a norm that works for everyone… just what has happened in our family)

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

It really depends on the person, but most people don’t really know themselves fully (even when they think they do) until their mid-20s, so getting married in your teens or early-20s is risky, though not necessarily doomed or anything. For those planning to have lots of kids, mid-to-late 20s is good and by your early 30s is really prudent. It sounds like you’re just fine where you are for you and your FI.

Post # 6
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Helper bee

I’m pretty sure the last I heard the average age for first-time brides in the US is 26, and 27 for first-time grooms. So you’re pretty close to average (if you’re in the US). But it doesn’t really matter — the right time is when you’re ready.

 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t think there is a ‘norm’. It’s when your ready and no one knows that except you.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think the average age in the US now is 25 or 26. I don’t know if there is ever a “right” age, but I hope most people wait until after college. People’s maturity levels vary so much.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

When it’s right for you personally 🙂 I’m 24 and my FI will be 24 when we get married this Fall

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think it’s when you meet the right person and the right time in your relationship. For me that was 30 – I didn’t meet ‘the one’ until I was 26. I refused to settle and so happy that I waited. It took us 3 years to get through moving to be together, getting to know each other and enjoy that first phase in our relationship.

I had been proposed to when I was 23 but knew it wasn’t right. When I met my now husband I knew he was the one 🙂

We do joke that we could have been married for years with babies if we had met a few years ahead!

 

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

Whatever works for you and your FI.  Who cares what other people say. =) I got engaged at 22, I’ll be 24 when I’m married in October.  FI will be 29.  

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I did not have any desire to be married in my early-mid twenties.  For me 30 worked out very well.  But everyone is different.  

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I think it entirely depends on how mature you are, and when you plan to start having kids etc if that’s what you want to do.

I don’t think there’s anything necessarily wrong with marrying -20 (it worked for my grandparents!) but most of the time they’re way to immature to handle a commitment like that. Saying that though, my older sister is 25 and still acts like a 16 year old!

For us we want to be married and have kids before we’re 30 so we can be as active as possible with them and our grandkids one day, so 24’s the right age for us.

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

The million dollar question 🙂

There is no” right age” ! The couple makes the decision, and everyone else has to deal with it!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Southerngirl4234:  I totally think it depends on your family and their level of education.

I’ve noticed most of my friends who their parents never went to college thought it was “normal” to get married before being 21. 

My parents who went to med school, both think that 30 is the perfect age. So to them, I’m young. I just chose a different lifestyle but I’m very mature for a 24 year old. I’ll be getting married at 25. My FI is 27 but will be 28 when we marry. So we have almost the same age between us like yours 🙂

I think it’s okay as long as you did have some time to be young and enjoy college! 🙂

You can never get that time back and once its gone, its gone! I fele more than happy to stay at home and not party. If that makes sense. Hope it helps. You aren’t alone 🙂

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t think there is a universal “right age”. I think what’s right for me & what’s right for someone else might be totally different. I’m 23 and I always wanted to get married younger. But I’m also at a totally different point in my life than other people I know. Some people I know that are my same age, are still away at college working on their bachelors. Some live with their parents & don’t even do their own laundry. My guess would be that those people aren’t ready for marriage at 23. But I live on my own, in my own house, which I totally re-did with FI last year. For me, if I had to wait until I was 30.. I would not be happy. But I know that I’m ready for the next phase in my life. 

I think it’s important to remember that no matter what age you are, people will have opinions.. and usually opinions that aren’t too nice. If you’re young, you’re immature. If you wait, they insist you’ll be too old to have children & you’ll have trouble TTC. You know yourself best and you are the one that has to live with your decisons. You will never please everyone! So you need to focus on making yourself happy 🙂

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