Post # 1
Me! But SO made it perfectly clear that’s not happening. He said he wants me to be completely surprised when it happens and so would I wouldn’t be part of that process. (Gotta love the man, bless his heart.)
But I’m worried. How would he know my taste in jewelry? I saw the most beautiful ring online. Its so rare I know he wouldn’t find it on his own and its reasonable too. But no, can tell him about this because he’ll think I’m being pushy especially after he says he wants to handle it on his own.
Can’t even tell my best friend to tell him because he’ll know I had something to do with it. Sigh! Anyone else feeling left out, but won’t mind being included?
Post # 3
I’m not sure what to tell you…that’s a tough one. My, now husband, asked me to go with him and pick out a few rings. We went to 4 different stores, I picked out one ring at each store and then he chose “the one” from those. I had no idea which one he was going to choose, so there was still an element of surprise. Are you close enough with any of his friends? Or maybe just talk to him about it, and let him know that you want to be surprised, you won’t go ring shopping with him, but maybe you can show him a few pictures to help him with his search (since there are THOUSANDS and THOUSANDS of rings)….
Post # 4
I didn’t want to go shopping, I wanted to be surprised. I hinted a bit that I like vintage… which is good b/c he gave me a family diamond so either way I wouldn’t have much of a choice, but I was so happy with what I got!
I’m sure you’ll love whatever he picks out, it’s such an exciting time that you’ll be happy no matter what! I did look at some rings online before I got mine just for funsies (I never told him), and the ring I got was nothing like what I was looking at. But it’s so much better! Sometimes our guys know us better than we do.
Post # 5
I’m glad I went because I didn’t know what MY taste was in rings until I started shopping.
I ended up falling in love with something I didn’t even think I’d like until I tried it on.
Post # 6
@bissell: I like how your Darling Husband did it. But SO would never agree to that. I guess if we randomy came across pictures of rings I like that might work. otherwise might be too involved for him.
@artbee: I’m sure you’re right!. And I told him whatever he gets I’ll be elated.
@ginnyc: I know right?
Post # 7
This is a tricky one. Boyfriend or Best Friend is also the type who wants to pick the ring himself, so I wasn’t sure how to show him my style.
I ended up asking him if he was okay with me showing him what my style is, so that he could make an informed decision 😉 He said he’s okay with me giving hints and pointing out rings I like, as long as he makes the final decision so it will be a surprise for me.
Maybe show him some pictures online? Or at least drop hints like ‘I really like solitaire/princess cut/halo etc’.
Post # 8
my bf wasn’t hot on the idea at first, apparently a jeweler had mentioned bringing me along once while he was looking, but when i randomly brought it up one day in conversation, he finally found merit in letting me tag along on one trip. that and he reasoned that if i’ll be wearing this ring for the rest of my life [awww!] he better find one i love.
he knows the style but i’ll ultimately be surprised in the end since i don’t know which ring he’ll end up picking.
@ginnyc: same with me! well, i went in with one style in mind but came out wanting another one.
Post # 9
I want to be surprised, but my SO wants hints…we went ring browsing to see what size stones and shapes we liked best and I’ve told him things I DON’T like…and he’s free to choose with that information! I’m excited and he still gets the choose the exact ring that he’ll propose with and I KNOW I’ll love it!! Love him SO much!!
Post # 10
My guy’s tastes are very different than mine, so I have dropped many hints as to what ring style I prefer. He loves the look of yellow gold, but I’ve worn white metals for so long that I’ve forgotten what a yellow finish looks like against my skin. He thinks a cluster of stones in the middle of a ring is pretty whereas I prefer a solitaire. He doesn’t mind that I drag him into jewelry stores to show him my favorites, and so far he laughs when he logs onto FB and sees all the ring pics I’ve posted.
I really think he will take my tastes into consideration before he buys the ring, so I doubt I will be blindsided with a design I don’t love. But I don’t actually want to be with him when he buys the ring. I do want a bit of a surprise, and since he has several styles to choose from I think it will all work out brilliantly………just waiting…………
Post # 11
I always thought that we would go shopping together but it doesnt seem to be happening at this stage! I would love it if he picked it out himself, but I get nervous that he will just go to the shopping centre and pick out what is in store there and not look for the best ring for the budget. I keep dropping hints but so far he just keeps saying not to worry about it! So either he has it or it is not happening anytime soon! (My bet is on not anytime soon!)
Post # 12
I went and I am so glad I did. I would never have gotten the ring I have now. The ones that I had showed him that I absolutely loved looked ridiculous on my hand. The one I have now is perfect and it wasn’t even one that I had considered. We were looking at rings and the jeweler showed us my ring just as an example of something we could get. It was out of the budget range that we gave her, but my Fiance saw my face light up when I saw it and tried it on and told me it had to be “the one”, so even though it was out of what I thought our budget was, it really wasn’t. I already said it, but I will say it again. I am so glad that I went because I know I wouldn’t have been happy with the result, if I hadn’t gone.
Post # 13
I would love to go shopping, but we haven’t yet. I feel like it should be something that he suggests, not me. I’d be fine with not going at all, assuming that he gets input from my mom or sister about the types of things I like.
I have 4 or 5 rings I really love, and I think I’d be perfectly comfortable with letting him pick out of those, or something similar – however I do still carry hope that some day he’ll suggest we look at rings.
Post # 14
Our engagement wasn’t a planned-out thing, it kind of evolved through a conversation, so there was no chance for him to go find a ring. That suited me just fine. I’m picky. He knows I’m picky. He also hates shopping. He was very happy that I went ring-shopping on my own. He did suggest that we use my grandmother’s jewelry, so I found a setting I liked within his budget and then we went together to get it assembled. It worked out perfectly and I couldn’t be happier.
Post # 15
We went ring shopping 1.5 times…I give it a .5, because the second time we went, I just ducked into the store to double check my ring size. We didn’t try on any rings that time!
I told my now fiance that I wanted to go one time. I wanted to go to a store to try on a few different things. He had asked for some input, and I gave it to him. At first, I just wanted to go “for the experience”, but now, I am so glad we went. Like others that posted, I thought I might really, really like a pave band. It did not look good on my fingers AT ALL. I tried on many different kinds of rings, but I fell in love with two of them. My Fiance told me that he wouldn’t buy those rings, because he wanted to choose the ring, but he would take those designs into consideration.
Fast forward 13 months to when he proposed. He ended up buying one of the rings that I fell in love with! The center diamond is from my mom’s engagement ring from my dad, and the setting is brand new. I love my ring, because it has an element of family in it, but it still is something new. Not to mention the fact that it came from my Fiance :-).
If your SO is okay with it, I highly, highly recommend ring shopping. It’s a good way to get educated!
Post # 16
We went today! I found a ring that I love. It has all the things I love and its affordable. Now he has all the info on the ring and where to find it. So it’s in his hands now.