(Closed) So who’s actually been to an intimate wedding?

posted 11 years ago in Logistics
Post # 32
1147 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

there will be 22 at out wedding include ourselves. 

we will be having everything a normal wedding has,  just smaller……and we will skip the dancing because with the best will in the world,  you just cannot get a party started with 20 people/  

Post # 33
2288 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

There were 13 people at our wedding and 17 at the reception. Pretty intimate, yes? 😉

Post # 34
845 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Years ago a dear friend of mine had an intimate wedding. It was her and her partner, 2 kids, her parents, me and mayber 6 other friends. It was at a little chapel in the mountains and we had dinner a local restaurant. They had a cake and flowers. It was really sweet and I still remember having such a great time!

Post # 35
2404 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I have never been to one every wedding i have ever gone to has had 100+ people (me and Fiance both have HUGE familys)

Post # 36
526 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We had a state side destination wedding with 45 people on Bald Head Island, NC.  Long weekend, road trip for all guests.  Noone had to fly. 

We still had a “normal” wedding.  We loved it.  The dancing did take a little bit of time  to happen.  That is where those ice-breaker songs are good.  The “train” worked well for us followed by “don’t stop believing”.  haha  Once we had a good icebreaker the dance floor was packed.  And I think guests felt comfortable being a little silly since it was so intimate and they knew everyone there.  If I were to do it all over again, I would do it exactly the same.  I loved having a small number of people.  THE IMPORTANT PEOPLE WERE THERE. 

Here are a few of my favorite pictures so you can get an idea for the feel of the event.  (some pro and some guest photos)



Post # 37
1147 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I have been to so many large weddings,  where they hired a DJ or had a live band,   cost them loads of money and the dance floor is empty……..and so with having limited guests…….and a budget to match, we decided to just have a      late-ish ceremony at 3.30,  a cocktail hour from 4-5 while photographs were being taken,  then sit down to eat at 5.30ish,   that should take until 7.30 maybe,  then drinks in the main part of the hotel for a couple of hours then they can escape if they want to…… But  if they stay then i will be more than happy.i did wonder what it will be like with no dancing,  thats why we are eating quite late.   

Post # 38
1333 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

On the contrary, I’m having a small wedding and it is NOT intimate, whatsoever. Most people invited are friends and family that we haven’t seen in years! The bridal party isn’t close with one another, the vows are traditional not personal…it would be intimate if we maintained these friendships/relationships but we haven’t (life gets busy). So I don’t care what the guest number is–a huge wedding could be intimate and a small wedding can be…or not!

Anyway, we are doing everything the same as a large wedding just probably less dancing (bummer!)

Post # 39
1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

My brother and his wife did a destination intimate wedding on a cruise ship. We had an engagement/bridal shower/reception for them on a Saturday afternoon and evening. They took off for Miami and spent Sunday with her brother and his SO. My mom, me, my father and nephew (from another sister) met up with them Sunday night, and my nephew hung out with my brother, while I spent the night with the bride and helped her get ready all morning.

We all met at the boat, and the coordinator from Carnival had everything under control. We were able to get into the cabin and share it to dress. while the men dressesd, we ate on the pool deck. While we dressed, the photographer came in for a bridal session. 

The room of the wedding provided a lot of ombiance. you know how ornate cruise ships are. But they had the expensive chairs that are an arm and a leg to rent, the music going, the aisle set up. They did traditional vows, and Carnival had a cake and campagne reception set up for us at a table in the other half of the room. The way the room curved a bit with the shape of the ship, we didn’t really even see that stuff set up on the other half of the room until we were done. At least I didn’t notice it because my back was too it as I stood up for the bride.

It was very intimate and romantic, really. And it was a lot less stressful than a regular wedding, which worked out because my SIL was not one of those who dreamed of a wedding since she was a girl. She was at a loss for planning, and she just doesn’t get into stuff like that. She likes to attend things, but she was just drawing a blank on planning, so this was perfect for her.

The cruise ship people escorted all nonsailing guests off, and we headed on back to our state shortly after leaving the ship. 

The only thing I hated about the wedding was that I was not a sailing guest! My brother and his new wife did not want any of us on their honeymoon. Can you imagine their nerve? LOL

Otherwise, it was perfect.

Post # 40
331 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

The most intimate ceremony I’ve been to was 15yrs ago & there were only 12 people (Priest, bride, groom, their 2 kids. Me & my mum. Another couple & their 3 kids). The couple were high school sweethearts who had been together (at that point) about 15yrs & the kids where stating to ask why they hadn’t got married.

The couple both wore jeans & white t shirts, everyone could wear what they wanted (I personally wore a tshirt of my fave rock band & board shorts! Classy!) the reception was at Pizza Hut!

It wasn’t ‘classy’ as such, but it was fun & laidback (like the couple) & 16yrs later they’re just as married as everyone else!

Post # 41
1886 posts
Buzzing bee

Both of my aunts had one and it was just family and very close friends. One was on the beach and the other one was by the lake where we always went camping every summer. 

Post # 42
1193 posts
Bumble bee

We had 90 people at our wedding. I know people who had way smaller weddings probably wouldn’t consider this intimate but to me and my husband it felt that way and almost everyone we talked to said something along those lines. Part of it was probably the atmosphere. Winter wedding in a lodge with candles and fireplace going.  Part of it was the guest list. We only invited our very closest friends, the majority who we have known 10+ years so our families knew most all our friends as well. Everyone pretty much knew eachother. There were no “must invite even though we don’t know them” people. Everyone played an important part in our lives for a long time and knew us both as a couple well.

 To me, what I loved most about having a “smaller” wedding was the quality time I got to spend with each guest.  It wasn’t ” hey thanks for coming”= move on the the next. It was genuine fun and memories made with each person at the wedding.

Post # 43
144 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We had an intimate wedding with our immediate family and closest local friends at my in-laws home in NYC. It ended up being about 30-40 people. We had a small bridal Party with his 2 sisters,my best friend, & my niece for the girls. Guys were my 2 brothers, DH’s dad, and my baby brother. Since we had such a small knit group we were able to do a ring warming ceremony and have everyone bless our rings before we exchanged them. We personalized our vows and then added in a sand ceremony–I’m a dance therapist so the idea of creating art to express the joining of our 2 families was also special to me. The music we used for this and everything else was played/sang live by a former colleague who is a music therapist. We also had everyone hold hands at the end during our final prayer and talked about how we are all in this together–that the support from family and friends is just as much a part of our weding as anything else.

Our reception was fairly standard. Cocktail hour and appetizers while we took pics and then we were running a little late on dinner so we ended up starting early with our toasts. It was actually a very cool thing. We had planned on doing toasts with just Maid/Matron of Honor and Best Man to be delicate with divorced families, but the next thing we know almost everyone there added a toast (many of which made me cry)–it was one of my favorite moments of the night. We also did our 1st dance before dinner and our Parents’ dance evolved into a dance with all of our parents and siblings dancing together and switching off. It was so great. We had a huge dinner (all cooked backyard BBQ). Then when it started to get dark, I called the kids out to set off our floating lanterns. DH surprised me here with 2 sky lanterns so we set those off too. We did the cake cutting around this time Mister Softee came by for anyone who wanted any ice cream. We didn’t do a bouquet or garter toss since there wasn’t much in the way of single guys, but we did pass out some bubbles that were missed at the ceremony and personally went around to hand out the favors. It was a great night.

Post # 44
6593 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

I’ve been to a few. My mom and stepdad were married in front of the fireplace in the living room with about 20-30 guests. She cut the cake at the dining table and catered local BBQ with a keg. Very low key and laid back like a house party; people slept over in tents in the backyard.

My aunt was married in a local historic home with about 40-50 guests. Hers was a traditional cake and appetizers wedding except for the small number of guests and she had a tapedeck playing music for guests to dance to.

For my first wedding I had the ceremony at a local park and the reception in a private room at a local restaurant. I had between 50 and 60 guests. What I loved about it was that I had a chance to speak to every guest at each table between dinner and dancing. I also have a picture with every guest because my photographer would take our picture with the guests as we went around the room greeting them. After greeting everyone, it was time to party and although only about 10-20 guests stayed to party that was perfect because I could really let loose around friends and family I was closest to. In planning my second wedding next fall we have already agreed on a invite list of less than 80 with a projected guest list of 50-60.

Post # 45
246 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@prettyflowers:  That’s the kind of wedding we want to have!! 🙂

Post # 46
3879 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@MadameLady:  I went to one that had about 15-20 guests. It was perfect! Very sweet, but fun! The bride and groom had the chance to talk to everyone during the reception. And while it was fun, it wasn’t crowded or loud. Just right.


My first wedding could be considered and “intimate wedding.” We had about 40-50 guests. I loved that.

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