Post # 1
I have been doing really good the last few days with not talking about wedding stuff or even the ring. I haven’t brought anything up. So why does he??GRRRR!! We went to a friend’s house saturday night to watch a football game and ont he way there we passed the reception place I liked and out of the blue he says to me, this is the place you want for the reception right honey? I looked at him in disbelief and nodded yes. I didn’t know what to say. I thought to myself that it is good that he is remembering what I told him. Also on Sunday I went to my parents’ house and when I come back he asked if I said anything to them about making the food for the reception. I said no, why would I. We aren’t even engaged yet. He said soon. I know he has been messing with the rings we are trading in for my e-ring because he got a ring box from me to put them in. I also know that he is planning on buying it by this weekend. I am just so excited and I don’t want to tell him that I know. I am just so excited and happy that I could burst. I think it may happen before our trip because I would think that if he was wanting to wait till our trip in March then he would buy it closer to that time. I am sure it would go on sale between now and then again, especially with Christmas and Valentine’s in there. Plus he has the first ring he gave me and he knows I don’t like not having it. I don’t know. I guess I am rambling.
Post # 3
yay! It sounds like it WILL be soon. It would be pretty mean to keep talking about it and say “soon” if he was planning to wait until march. Isn’t the waiting just ridiculously hard though? I hate it.
I know my guy has picked out a ring (although I don’t know what it looks like), but I don’t know if he has purchased. We have a vacation in about 3 weeks and I think he might do it then… but lord knows it could be then or sooner or later. The not knowing is soooo hard.
Post # 4
It is so hard. It sucks. Don’t get me wrong the anticipation is great but I hate waiting. I am stuck on the edge of feeling that he will get it this weekend but then that negative voice comes out and says that we are going to watch the football game on saturday and I don’t know when he would have a chance to go get it. He could Friday if he doesn’t work but the place we are getting it is having their VIP sale Saturday and I amsure that the lady he is having help him will tell him to come back Saturday and I don’t forsee him being sneaky enough to go somewhere without me. I want to be hopeful:) But then I have that slight negativity.
Post # 5
I was all wedding talk right before we got engaged (I had no idea he was planning it) and he told me to STOP TALKING ABOUT IT. I thought he was just getting really annoyed, and I felt bad. But later I found out it was because he was worried I had figured it out, or that I would figure it out before he did it! Try not to stress about it if you can. 🙂
Post # 6
I working on the stress part. I don’t bring up anything wedding to him at all. He will make comments about stuff and I will say one or two things and then change the subject. This week is dragging on!!! It is pure agony! I know it will take at least 2 weeks for the ring to be made once he orders it, but I will so much more relieved once that purchase has been made.
Post # 7
*hugs* girl, I would be a nervous wreck if I were in the situation you were in. I hate waiting AND surprises! Not only that, I would have EXPLODED at him for bringing up wedding stuff if I was trying so hard not to. I need to start trying harder to not nag at him, but I’m getting really annoyed with not even going ring shopping.
Post # 8
Oh man, that is sucktastic. It’s hard to muzzle yourself, and then THEY bring it up, and you have to work three times as hard not to have this verbal diarreha of all of the things you been thinking; primaily: why the hell haven’t you proposed yet!?
… um, at least that’s the way it was for me.
I feel your pain. But have no special advice for you, just deep breating and margaritas.
Post # 9
I am with you! I have not brought up “our wedding” or what I would want for our wedding for months now. He brings it up and at first I’m thinking “aww, so sweet that he thinks of these things,” and then my thoughts turn to “are you serious, here?? Did I miss the proposal? Because there is no wedding!!” lol
I think in my guy’s case he’s saying these things to get out of the dog house. Great example, a few weeks ago I was so upset that I cried, so he turned on the Say Yes to the Dress marathon, and we watched the whole thing and ordered pizza. He also told me what he thinks my dress would look like.
But I think your guy is mentioning it because he’s getting close!! Good luck!!! That’s so exciting!!
Post # 10
I know it’s torturous when they bring that stuff up while you’re waiting! You’re trying so hard to distract yourself from it but he keeps bringing it up – very frustrating. Just hang in there – it sounds like things are progressing very nicely. You might be right that he’s going to propose sooner (5-6 months to hang onto a ring sounds loooong).
Post # 11
I TOTALLY AGREE…its not fair that they bring it up and we have to be quiet…We travelled this weekend and stayed at his sisters house…her room color scheme happens to be the colors that we were thinking about for the wedding and out of the blue he says “arent these the colors you were thinking for the bridesmaid dresses” i was like ugh…yeah….and didnt know what else to say! and then he went on to tell me how one of his college buddies just got engaged…i didnt say a word!! UGH!!!
Post # 12
What makes it even worse is that my youngest daughter asked him last night when is going to marry me. He had walked into the house and she ran up to him and gives him this great big hug and kiss and I was just standing there and joked that I got left out and she goes to him, give her a kiss she’s your girlfriend. Soon she will be your wife and thats when she asked him that and he said soon. GRRRRRR!!! This is so aggravating:) He is terrible at biting his nails or chewing his fingers and I keep reiminding to stop and he says each time don’t worry they will look nice for our pictures. This boy needs to hurry it up or his lunchs will start suffering. I love taking care of him and I get up early in the morning and pack a lunch for him since he works a very manual job. I told him a couple weeks ago that he better propose sooner rather then later or he gets half a cold tuna sandwich and a bottle of yoohoo for lunch from now on. He thought I was joking. He’s a funny little man.
Post # 13
Hang in there! I had no idea it was coming when my husband proposed, and I honestly can’t imagine how hard the waiting would be if I had known it was coming! It ws hard enough to wait 2 days to tell everyone! (We waited until after a good friend’s wedding so as not to impose and steal her thunder)