(Closed) So why does he get to talk wedding stuff??

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

yay! It sounds like it WILL be soon. It would be pretty mean to keep talking about it and say “soon” if he was planning to wait until march. Isn’t the waiting just ridiculously hard though? I hate it.

I know my guy has picked out a ring (although I don’t know what it looks like), but I don’t know if he has purchased. We have a vacation in about 3 weeks and I think he might do it then… but lord knows it could be then or sooner or later. The not knowing is soooo hard.

Post # 5
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1371 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I was all wedding talk right before we got engaged (I had no idea he was planning it) and he told me to STOP TALKING ABOUT IT.  I thought he was just getting really annoyed, and I felt bad.  But later I found out it was because he was worried I had figured it out, or that I would figure it out before he did it!  Try not to stress about it if you can.  🙂

Post # 7
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4567 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

*hugs* girl, I would be a nervous wreck if I were in the situation you were in. I hate waiting AND surprises! Not only that, I would have EXPLODED at him for bringing up wedding stuff if I was trying so hard not to. I need to start trying harder to not nag at him, but I’m getting really annoyed with not even going ring shopping.

Post # 8
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473 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Oh man, that is sucktastic. It’s hard to muzzle yourself, and then THEY bring it up, and you have to work three times as hard not to have this verbal diarreha of all of the things you been thinking; primaily: why the hell haven’t you proposed yet!?

… um, at least that’s the way it was for me.

I feel your pain. But have no special advice for you, just deep breating and margaritas. 

Post # 9
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815 posts
Busy bee

I am with you!  I have not brought up “our wedding” or what I would want for our wedding for months now.  He brings it up and at first I’m thinking “aww, so sweet that he thinks of these things,” and then my thoughts turn to “are you serious, here??  Did I miss the proposal?  Because there is no wedding!!” lol

I think in my guy’s case he’s saying these things to get out of the dog house.  Great example, a few weeks ago I was so upset that I cried, so he turned on the Say Yes to the Dress marathon, and we watched the whole thing and ordered pizza.  He also told me what he thinks my dress would look like. 

But I think your guy is mentioning it because he’s getting close!!  Good luck!!! That’s so exciting!!

Post # 10
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215 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I know it’s torturous when they bring that stuff up while you’re waiting! You’re trying so hard to distract yourself from it but he keeps bringing it up – very frustrating. Just hang in there – it sounds like things are progressing very nicely. You might be right that he’s going to propose sooner (5-6 months to hang onto a ring sounds loooong).

Post # 11
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Worker bee

I TOTALLY AGREE…its not fair that they bring it up and we have to be quiet…We travelled this weekend and stayed at his sisters house…her room color scheme happens to be the colors that we were thinking about for the wedding and out of the blue he says “arent these the colors you were thinking for the bridesmaid dresses” i was like ugh…yeah….and didnt know what else to say! and then he went on to tell me how one of his college buddies just got engaged…i didnt say a word!! UGH!!!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Hang in there! I had no idea it was coming when my husband proposed, and I honestly can’t imagine how hard the waiting would be if I had known it was coming! It ws hard enough to wait 2 days to tell everyone! (We waited until after a good friend’s wedding so as not to impose and steal her thunder)

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