(Closed) So why does the sparkly ring mean so much? Give me your thoughts :)

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I think its a lot of things… and to me probably the biggest thing was just the social ritual of it. Like it or not we’re kind of programmed by our upbringing and having a physical memento of an intangible commitment makes it feel more real– even though nothing is really different. 

Beyond that, looking at the ring on your finger can kind of make you feel differently about yourself. You know how good you feel when you get a new haircut? or how weird/cool it feels to get all dressed up in professional clothes for your first job? Somehow you FEEL different because you look different, and the ring is the same. You look at your hand… and you’re one of “them”… the attached people. The grown up people. 

Not to mention… its just so pretty πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper

For me the ring in the first few years didn’t mean much. I wore a CZ ring, then a plain band or sometimes nothing at all. We had a child at that point and it just didn’t factor in as “meaningful”.

Now that I’m older and we’re more established I wear a nicer ring as a reminder of where we were, where we are now in our marriage… and also I just want to look at a nice piece of jewelry!!

I agree too, sometimes it does make you feel a bit more “grown up” when you’ve got a ring on.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I like looking at my hand and knowing “we’re together for life”.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Oh, and I like other people knowing it too. Wink

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@unixfairy:The ring can be the outward symbol to society. It depends on where you grew up.

I mean, he was 100% sure he wanted to marry me in Nov 2009. He gave me the ring in Feb 2011. In Nov 2009 it didn’t feel like we were engaged, but we were.

 

The ring made everyone else acknowledge it and actually made a huge difference to me (although originally I thought I didn’t need an engagement ring).

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

When I look at the beauty of my ring I can’t help but think of the beauty of our love and our life together.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think the ring is an outward symbol of your commitment and devotion to the person you chose to be with your entire life. I’m old fashioned and I know the majority of women don’t agree with me, but I love that when people see my ring they know I belong to somebody:)

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think it’s the combination of the weight of tradition (subconsciously, engaged = ring) and social acknowledgement (ring = outward symbol to the world).

I don’t actually have a ring, which was our choice together.  It doesn’t make me less engaged. But it does make my engagement MUCH less public. 

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I agree with JewishBride

To me my ring says (to others):  “I am taken, I am happy, I am cared-for, I am stable.  I am married.  Legit., mature, trustworthy.”  I feel so legit and mature.  (Even though I am using the word “legit.” πŸ™‚

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