(Closed) So why is sex all wrapped up in morality?

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

What I believe (note: this is my opinion only) is that it is largely due to religious affiliation. Many christians are taught that sex is “bad” before marriage, so numerous sexual partners is NOT GOOD- and would be a dealbreaker for some.

Personally, I did not judge any of my exes moral characters based on their number of sexual partners. My Darling Husband had been with 12 girls (I think- 12 or 13) before me. I had been with 4 guys before him. Do I care? No. Does he care? No. Are we still moral? We certainly try to be.

Now, having drunken sex with multiple people multiple times a week every week probably indicates some sort of sexual intimacy issues, but still does not diminish that person’s character. The person that has sex with 6 people a week can still give money to the homeless, still do charitable things for others, and can even form a committed relationship with someone eventually.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@AcheneMalefic:  +1

If uncommitted sex makes someone (truly) happy it’s none of anyone’s business if that’s what they do behind closed doors. It also doesn’t make them a good or bad person.

I intend on teaching my kids that sex is a totally ok thing to do solong as they’re safe and happy. Bringing love and commitment into the mix can lead to WAY WORSE PROBLEMS. “What do you mean you don’t want to have sex baby? Don’t you love me?”

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

When it comes to sex, I consider it a mindset.  Either you equate sex with love or you equate it with power.  

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@JaneyDcat:  very far from the truth. sometimes, you equate with nothing, and you have it when you feel like it.

Post # 7
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Busy bee

@worldtraveler:  I think you’re right. Instead of putting morals into it, I think it’s more related to the persons values. 

Morals are something you believe that is right or wrong. 

But values are beliefs that you hold dear to yourself. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@JaneyDcat:  I completely disagree with this aswell. Sex is an enjoyable activity just like any other. Sometimes love and power get involved but this is by no means the rule.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

To me, sex is something special to be shared only with someone you love. I don’t believe it’s something to do with whoever you want whenever you feel like it. Of course there are negative consequences like stds, unwanted pregnancy, etc. Also, I think young people don’t really understand the emotional consequences of sleeping around and for some people, that ends up having a negative impact on them in the future. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@JaneyDcat: This statement is very ignorant and suggests that you do not have much experience when it comes to sexual relationships. Nothing wrong with that, but please don’t try to act like some sort of authority on this topic.

 

I had many casual sex partners before Fiance, because I enjoyed sex and simply hadn’t found the right man to be in a committed relationship with. It had nothing to do with power.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MaryKay14:  Whoa.  You’re calling me ignorant?

 

 

 

I guess so much for us all sharing and discussing our opinions on things.  You all have a nice debate about sex and morality.  
 

 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@JaneyDcat:  She called your statement ignorant… You take it how you want.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@JaneyDcat:  she didn’t say “you’re ignorant” she said “that statement is ignorant”

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

@JaneyDcat:  or none of those. Personally, I equate it with pleasure. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Well, ladies….defend it however you want. It was a very judgemental statement.  I’m not going to stick around in a thread where people voice their opinions and lace them with a condescending attitude.

 

My statement was merely that I FELT that sex is equated with either love or power.  If you feel otherwise, fine.  You don’t need to go around pissing on MY opinion.  Take it for what you want.

 

Have a good day. 

 

 

Post #9:

This statement is very ignorant and suggests that you do not have much experience when it comes to sexual relationships. Nothing wrong with that, but please don’t try to act like some sort of authority on this topic.

 

I had many casual sex partners before Fiance, because I enjoyed sex and simply hadn’t found the right man to be in a committed relationship with. It had nothing to do with power.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

It is based on beliefs. I might not agree with it but its not my place to question it. If somebody dosn’t want a relationship with someone that had a lot of sex partners that is their business.

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