- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
Ladies…I feel like a damn broken record here, I’ve stressed about the money for this wedding from day one and it hasn’t gotten any better. it should be in place but it’s not, I work all the time, my Fiance works all the time, I’ve scaled back so much I can’t even remember what my original plans or budget even were. We got behind for a little while and can’t seem to get caught back up on finances. We are making ends meet but after the important things are paid for, there’s not much money left. Now I find out I need to have oral surgery to remove my wisdom teeth, $600 of that is an out of pocket expense my insurance wont cover and I have to make payments on it for 12 months. And that’s just how it’s been this whole time, one unexpected expense after another. Cars breaking down, losing jobs and getting another that pays less, health issues, family issues, just so much money I wasn’t expecting to spend on anything but the wedding.
I have 4 months as of yesterday, I am so excited to be marrying him, I am crazy in love! But I have at least $2,500-$3,000 more I need and have $600 in savings right now. Just doesn’t seem doable to me. my Future Mother-In-Law is stressing me out, my mom is stressing me out, but most of all i am stressing myself out. As I see it right now I have these options, stick with my venue and caterer and do nothing but work and sleep a couple hours until summer is over, neglecting my DIY’s I need to finish, and not spend any money except bills and hope to make it work and not die of stress. (Also I can’t go without a caterer at this venue because they supply linens and flatware along with the food.) Or I could lose out on $500 worth of deposits and reserve the amphitheater at the state park and have a reception under the park shelter with picnic tables. Wow, what a choice. Could I make that cute, most likely. I could absolutely make that fit into my nature theme more than a modern all white art gallery. But I just don’t know if that’s doable or even makes any sense. Wasting money just to save more money? i wont get those deposits back and I’d still have to spend money (though less) to complete the rest of my wedding day plans. I’m not sure that’s even a reasonable idea! It seems silly to change venues this late in the game, but I wont even have a venue if I can’t finish paying them off.
Sure, 4 months…But that’s not very long, that’s 4 more months of rent, of bills, of weekly expenses I know about, and ones that are unexpected. I can’t work another 15 hour day just to get over time and go 24 hours without sleep. That’s madness. I never wanted an expensive wedding, and this one is just turning out to be more then I can handle. Originally it was going to be a breeze, but once life hit it hit too hard for me to come back from. Money is just way too tight.
Sorry to ramble so much, I just really really needed to vent and maybe here some opinions. I know no matter what happens I am marrying the best man I know and the love of my life, I couldn’t be more ready for that part and the rest of our lives. We just gotta get there! lol