Post # 1
Im hoping to get my BFP in 8 days! I’m just curious how you went about your medical care after you got a pos home preg test. Although I’m pretty sure I want to do the typical hospital/epidural route, there are some specific things that (as of right now) I want done or not done for baby. For example, I want baby placed on me immediately after birth so we can bond for those first very important two hours. I want to not clamp/cut the cord until it has stopped pulsating. I don’t want the baby taken to the nursery. Please keep in mind that these are the choices I want at the moment and I understand that delivery may not go as planned which could throw all of those things out of the window or I could simply change my mind.. I’m concerned that a lot of doctors won’t “allow” those things so, I want to make sure that I find a dr that does. How do I go about that?
Did you just go to your regular dr to confirm and then find an obgyn? Did you go straight to an obgyn? How did you decide on your obgyn? Did you tour the birthing center? Ask about c-section and episiotomy frequency?
Post # 3
@idaho1745: then i freaked out!!!!!!
Post # 4
@idaho1745: after I got my BFP (12/18) I called my OB. I was set up for a “confirmation appt” Jan 7. at that appt they did bloodwork and discussed prenatal vitamins and morning sickness. She felt my ute and gave me a lab order for an ultrasound. On jan 10 6w4d I had my first u/s to hear the heart and get a due date.
i had been going to my OBGYN since I was 18 for my yearly exams. i like her for the most part. I love the birthing center where I will deliver. I guess if you don’t have an OB, then when you call to schedule an appt you can ask them when it’s appropriate to discuss birth plans.
Post # 5
I got my BFP April 2 and called my regular ob as soon as they opened. I had been seeing this ob for 3 years and my best friend also goes to the same ob, they delivered her baby in August and will be delivering her second baby in October. The birthing center is beautiful. April 10 I had an appointment with the prenatal nurse, we went over nutrition, vitamins, morning sickness, the different tests they’ll do in the upcoming weeks, I had another pregnancy test (just urine) and blood work done to make sure I don’t have any viruses that would eventually be passed onto the baby. I have my ultrasound April 23 and an exam with the doctor May 14.
Post # 6
@idaho1745: Good luck! I would ask friends and family their opinions on their OB/GYNs. I found mine through a girlfriend’s recommendation and I love her! Once you have some ideas, you can ask their office more specific questions before scheduling the appointment (such as c-section rate, etc.).
Post # 7
I researched the hospitals in my area where they have L&D and then decided which one I wanted to deliver at, and from there I researched which doctors delivered there and picked my OB practice (I was new to the area so I didn’t have any doctors here yet). I gave them a call and had my orientation visit set up where they gave me a TON of pregnancy/birth/baby packets and samples/coupons, did a pap smear, discussed prenatals and exercise, diet etc and gave me my EDD. 2 weeks later I had a dating ultrasound to make sure their EDD was correct (at 6 weeks)
Hospitals/doctors are generally going to be pretty open to your wishes, as long as they are medically reasonable. The things you mentioned are common desires nowadays, so it shouldn’t shock them or anything, haha. You can discuss your birth wishes with the doc and make sure you are both on the same page. 🙂 Good luck!
Post # 8
Everything you mentioned is regular practice at our Wisconsin hospital- baby is placed on your stomach, you can wait to clamp the chord, they do not take babies to the nursery anymore, and you are encouraged to bond skin to skin and breastfeed. We are hoping to have a natural unmedicated birth at the hospital. I went for an OB and am very glad I did for our first baby- although we are low risk, I want to be at the hospital just prior to transition (we will do early and most of first stage at home).
Post # 9
I think your requests are perfectly reasonable, and they’re more related to hospital policy than your specific doctor. So, the first step after you get a BFP is to decide where you want to deliver and then (if you aren’t already established with an ob/gyn) find a doctor who delivers there.
The things you mentioned (immediate skin-to-skin, rooming in and delayed cord clamping) are all practices my hospital supports. If these things are deal breakers for you, I’d recommend calling your preferred hospital’s birth center/maternity ward and ask about taking a tour where you can ask questions. 🙂
To answer your other question, I was in between GP’s when I got my BFP so when I called to set up a new patient appointment with a GP and confirm the pregnancy, they told me I should go straight to an OB. I then made an appointment with the OB’s office for 10 weeks – I never had a blood test to confirm the pregnancy. But every practice operates differently.
Hope you get your BFP! Good luck!
Post # 10
I got my BFP Feb 6. I called the doc and made an appt to verify pregnancy. They drew blood and took my past history and then I talked to the doctor for a while. They made me a return appt for the following month but there wasn’t much to that appt.
Post # 11
@idaho1745: Not to be rude but you don’t get to “choose” if your baby goes to the nursery or not. When my daughter was born, obviously I wanted to hold her and see her but they need to run tests on the baby to make sure it is healthy and ok..why wouldn’t you want that? The took my daughter to the nursery and it’s a good thing they did because they discovered she wasn’t getting warm enough at first and put her in a little incubator and they also discovered that she has jaundice. So in regards to that, let the doctors do what’s best for your baby. There will be plenty of time to hold him/her after they determine its health.
Post # 12
Thank you! That was very helpful:)
Post # 13
Haha! Yeah, I probably will too:)
Post # 15
Thank you. And congratulations:)