- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
Let me start by saying I have three great bridesmaids. My Maid/Matron of Honor is my best friend in the world without a doubt, one is my very good friend from college, and one is my fiance’s sister who I have become very close to. They’re smart, kind, intelligent, motivated people and it’s been a gift to have them in my life. When I got engaged, I had no doubt who my three bridesmaids would be. They all have pretty different schedules, so one of the girls, Future Sister-In-Law actually, came with me to do a little research. We made an appointment and went to this boutique (we’ll call it Boutique A). Here’s how it went:
Store clerk: Why don’t you have all of your bridesmaids here today?
Me: Oh, well everyone has different schedules. Plus sometimes it’s hard to have so many competing opinions going on anyway. I’m hoping to pick out four or five styles that my girls can choose from that are the same color, same fabric, and same company. I’d hate for someone to make me buy a dress and I have no say in it. They’re all about the same size and build (note: Future Sister-In-Law had already mentioned how easy this whole thing would be for that very reason in the car on the way there), so I’m sure that they will look beautiful in anything. The green color will really look beautiful with their coloring as well.
Note: If I had to guess, all of my bridesmaids wear about a 2/4/6 in street clothes. They’re all very petite and have some very hardcore athletic backgrounds (track, soccer, and cheerleading). Me? I’m a 10/12. I competed in figure skating for 10 years. Did gymnastics. Did dance. Swam. At my thinnest I’m an 8/10. I have polycystic ovary syndrome, so I have to work a lot harder to maintain a normal weight than the average person and have to medicate myself for insulin resistence (which helps to control my weight much better, but also is a preventative measure because a lot of women with PCOS develop diabetes). I am not as thin as my bridesmaids, but I am generally happy with my appearance. I have a flat stomach. I can wear the things that I like. I go to the gym and I’m in very good shape. But I don’t judge other people’s body types because I know how difficult the weight struggle can be. So yes, point being, I think fitness and beauty come in all shapes and sizes, This next comment was very hurtful then.
Store clerk: “oh, so you have to be thin to be your friend?”
I about died. Finished the appt, picked a few dresses in the event that another place didn’t have anything as good. Really, who the eff says that? Two of my three bridesmaids have degrees in nutrition because their health and fitness is a huge priority. I MET Maid/Matron of Honor when we were at a gym working out. Know how Future Sister-In-Law and I bonded? She stayed with us for an internship over the summer and we became workout buddies!
So I found a different shop with better dresses. And no one got bitchy with me.