Post # 1
This was asked of me today by a coworker. This lady does not know me outside of work, has never met my SO and yet she has asked me at least 3 times in the past year about the state of our relationship. Today she comes over and goes “Are you still with your guy?” I respond “yes.” “Any news?!?!” Gahhh, so annoying. Isn’t it obvious that since I do not have a ring on my finger there is no news? Anyways, after I politely said there was no news she goes, “So what’s the deal? You guys don’t want to get married? You just want to keep dating forever?” I answered that we do want to get married and will when the timing is right for us.
I try to be polite but at the same time I feel her questions are not only annoying, they are also none of her business. I will never understand why people think these are appropriate questions to be asking someone, especially someone you don’t know all that well. I guess if I want to look on the brightside, I won’t have to face her questions for another few months or so…but she is bound to ask again! Anyways, just needed to vent.
Post # 3
@dontstopbeelievin: Oh i feel you! people are SOOO nosey! I get that quite a bit….from various people including some family(ok alot of family, in thier defense in my family once you start getting over 22 ish alot of aunts starts getting with their friends to select single guys that are associated with but not related to the family…)….but rude none the less….sorry you encounter such rudeness…
Post # 4
@dontstopbeelievin: Yeah, she has some nerve!!! Ah well… some people are annoying.
Post # 5
@dontstopbeelievin: Ugh. I feel for you. I have been engaged for 3.5 years and one of my coworkers makes snarky comments ALL the time about my long engagement. I have to take a deep breath and smile sweetly so I don’t throw my diet coke at her face. Unfortunately, there really isn’t a way to stop all the nosey people. I sometimes like to make up extravagant stories that make people regret asking what is taking us so long to plan our wedding 🙂
Post # 6
@dontstopbeelievin: eek that sucks. I’d be annoyed too. If you feel mean next time you can say, “when is your next doctor’s appointment? I think your eyesight is getting worse or you’re hallucinating if you’re seeing things that aren’t there” [meaning the ring].
But that’s really mean and I’d definitely never say that outloud haha
I don’t know why people think those questions are appropriate. A few weeks back some family acquaintances asked, “are you living with your boyfriend or just dating?” I thought that was rude. (But boy have times changed lol)
Post # 7
I think she was just trying to be friendly, I would respond its up in the air if she keeps asking. Sounds like you were a bit too sensitive about the question imo. Some ladies bring guys up in conversations just to have a talking piece and if you don’t want to be friends I get that, but, I mean if your peeved at the talk of marriage change the subject.
Coworkers ask me about my guy and I getting married all the time, I just laugh it off and go back to work.
Post # 8
We’d only been dating a little over a year before we got engaged, and people all the time asked us if it was “official” yet. People are just nosy and don’t know how to mind their own business!
Post # 9
My family asks all the time!! I just smile and nod lol
Post # 10
People ask all the time too and then try to offer advice.. it’s annoying. If I want people’s advice, I’ll ask for it.. till then, fricken butt out!!! Ughh. People.
Post # 11
OMG I could have wrote this post! I completely flipped my lid Saturday. I met up with two of my high school friends to welcome our buddy back to NYC for the weekend. And one girl (who was at one point my GF), the first words out of her mouth after seeing me are “Are you engaged yet?” *FACE PALM* “No. Are you?” Knowing that she isn’t with anyone at the moment. I know it was mean, but After a sucky week it was just the straw that broke the Bee’s back.
And then on Sunday I am greeted at work by this …CHICK…I can’t stand, with the same question. “Are you engaged yet?” – “No. Are you?” Knowing that she isn’t with anyone at the moment and not caring if it was mean.
Then I went home and talked to my SO about it.*FacePalm*
Now I am shutting up. I am over this waiting game
I think it is just rude and classless to say that. You couldn’t ask “How are things going?”
Post # 12
One time, I was talking to my boss. She asked why we were engaged/getting married. I said it’s because I’m going back to school, so the only real income we’ll have his SO’s, so it (as of right now) won’t be enough to afford everything. She gave me a blank stare as if she didn’t get it. Usually, if someone asks and I tell them that, they say “oh that makes sense.”
I think next time someone she askes what the deal is, you should give her your phone and tell her to call your SO and ask him
Post # 13
@memo: Ewww to your boss. Like she couldn’t understand how some people just CAN’T AFFORD stuff right now…. yucky. I run into those kind of people all the time (Elitist Snobs).
Post # 14
@Sapphire-Dreamer: Yeah, some people do not understand that not everyone has a big old money tree in their backyard. 😛
Luckily I haven’t had anyone ask this, but I bet anything my aunts back home are wondering when we will get married. I bet there will be some minor drama once they find out we are doing small and/or eloping without any family other than my mom and his dad and brothers.
Post # 15
I was just at a family get togethe this weekend and had to field a few of these remarks. I wanted to point to my SO and be like “Look. He’s right there. Why don’t you go ask him?!” Yes, I’m anxious to marry the love of my life, but, sheesh, I feel like everyone else is MORE anxious.
Post # 16
My favorite was when my old boss said “Well if he loved you enough he would of married you already.”