Sober Bees

posted 5 months ago in Wellness
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I’ve never been that interested in drinking either. Probably because I grew up in a religious household where my parents never drank so it was just not something that was “normal” to me.

Also, I would see–especially in college–the ramifications of drinking and just avoid it altogether.

Just in the past few years I started drinking the occasional glass of wine at home with my husband and now that I’m pregnant I of course don’t even do that and I don’t miss it at all lol. 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2020

I’ve never been a big drinker. Never been drunk in my life. My whole family just isnt super interested in drinking, and my picky eating transferred to drinking, so I don’t like most alcohol. I enjoy making homemade strawberry dacquiris in the summer, and a spiked punch in winter, but most days I don’t have anything. I probably wouldn’t drink at all if it weren’t for my husband leaving his vodka lemonades (which I also love) unattended.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

Yes. I dated an older guy from my teens into my mid 20s. He bought me alcohol, and we’d have fun together, but about 3 years into our relationship, he started to drink to excess and within a couple of years of that it was full blown alcoholism. He did try to get sober the last couple of years of our relationship without much luck (he eventually did. I believe he’s almost at 8 years sober, AFAIK), and I stopped cold turkey when I’d figured out what was going on.

We had a long distance relationship (and a very messed up one at that) so I didn’t realize the gravity of the situation for a long time. I didn’t drink a drop for about 3 years, and I judged every guy I dated very harshly on their alcohol usage. If I felt they drank too much, I’d end things.

My husband was the first man who I felt had a truly normal and healthy relationship with alcohol. He and I did enjoy going out and trying craft cocktails at different bars, though admittedly we have overdone it a couple of times. At this point neither of us really drinks anymore. For me it triggers my asthma and allergies, and it doesn’t leave him feeling well either. Honestly, the stuff is poison. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee

I haven’t had a drink in years and don’t miss it. Now that I’m getting older, I find that it just makes me tired. And I can tie most of my bad decisions to drinking (in my youth).

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

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gaia3465 :  I’ve never cared that much about alcohol… didn’t have a drink until well after my 21st birthday because I just didn’t care. I think I had two drinks total while in college. Now I prefer to use it in cooking/candy or a shot in my hot chocolate when I’ve got a bad cold. My husband bothers even less than I do, likewise his family. My parents let us taste as kids and I think that kept it from being a taboo, rebellious thing. Just made me apathetic, plus I never want to not know what happened last night… that’s such a scary thing it amazes me that anyone takes the chance (via excessive drinking, I’m no Prohibitionist).

I don’t happen to have any ‘sober’ friends or anything so I don’t have much firsthand experience in how it can take over a life and leave a void when stopped, but like any drug, much respect for those who can recognize and resolve that problem for themselves. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee

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gaia3465 :  My dad was an alcoholic so I never had much interest in having a drink because I’ve seen the negative effect it can have on one’s life. 

My husband couldn’t be bothered either. 

Post # 9
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Worker bee

I was a binge drinker from about age 18-30. My binges were fall down black out affairs where I didn’t remember a single thing about the night. There were periods of time where I would go a few months without partying, but the urge was always there. I would be terribly hungover for multiple days. I. Was. An. Idiot. I got pregnant at 30 and stopped completely. I started drinking wine again when my son was around two. I got wasted one time and have been sober ever since. It has been over five years now. I still crave wine once in a while, but the few times I have had a glass I ended up not finishing it. I’ll take one sip and the reasons I don’t drink come flooding in to my head. 

Post # 11
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Worker bee

My step dad is an alcoholic and it is the saddest thing to witness. His health is steadily declining. He has been drinking heavily for twenty years, since his youngest daughter died at age 22. He is a shell of the person he was before. Drinking has put him in the hospital mulitiple times for heart related issues. He isn’t honest with doctors though, so his condition is complicated by the fact that when he’s in hospital, he’s also in withdrawal. He was active, intelligent and funny his whole life, and now he is just sad and confused all the time. Thankfully he’s not violent. Seeing him like this is good motivation to stay sober. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

His husbands uncle died of illnesses directly related to drinking. I saw him in his final months and it wasn’t pleasant. Put me off drinking for 2 years. 

I do enjoy a glass of wine now but after 4 years of pregnancy and breastfeeding I don’t drink much now. I tend to have a glass of wine once a month or so, if not longer.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2018 - UK

When I was in my late teens to mid 20s, I’d be out drinking every weekend. Drinking culture seems to be more prevalent in the UK, and especially back in the early 2000s, the whole “ladette” thing was happening, so everyone I knew was doing the same.

 When I met my husband, I found out he doesn’t drink at all. His father died of alcoholic liver failure, and his mother was an alcoholic for most of his life, up until a few years ago, so understandably he had no desire to drink. I didn’t give up, but I definitely stopped drinking as much. I wasn’t out partying every weekend, and I didn’t drink much when we were together because it wasn’t much fun drinking alone.

 Now, I’ve totally lost interest in drinking, and I’ve also lost my ability to handle it. If I have more than a couple, I end up feeling terrible the following day, and the hangover just isn’t worth it. I also stopped enjoying the feeling of being drunk. I probably drink about a bottle of wine a week now, across a few days. I do that because I like the taste, but to be honest, it would be totally fine if I stopped completely.

Post # 15
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Helper bee

Have you ever been in a relationship that’s really bad for you, but you’ve only realized that after having been broken up for a while? 

That’s how I feel. The only alcohol I’ve had in nearly four years is half a glass of champagne at my wedding. Now all I see is the hurt it causes. I believe that the harm alcohol causes the 1 in 20 people who have a drinking problem – as well as those around them – exceeds the good it does for the rest. 

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