(Closed) Social Anxiety and Greeting your Wedding Guests

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - Carmen\'s Lakeview

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jelly3:  Honestly, relax and don’t think too much of it! 🙂

When you’re greeting your guests, the biggest thing is to thank them for coming. They may start a conversation or they may compliment you. If you don’t know how to respond or continue a conversation, just say thanks again, I hope you enjoy yourself and gesture to your husband to go to another table.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee

I have social anxiety too! Fiance doesn’t though so that kinda helps, but I’m still dreading it. Honestly though I’ve never been to a wedding where the bride and groom are expected to sit there and have long conversations with the guests, they all know you’re busy. I’m planning on going around to everyone and saying “Hi (person), we’re so glad you came! How was your trip here (or how was the food)? Great! Well thanks again for coming!” and politely moving on. Then it’s really them talking, not me. That’s really all that they should expect anyway.

I also plan on being tipsy, so there’s that too

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

This would be ideal for a small guest list, but a cute suggestion I’ve seen is for the couple to serve everyone dessert (probably work best with doling out slices of pie or cake with whipped cream). You get to interact with everyone while also having a task to focus on, and Aunt Madge will be less inclined to hold you verbally hostage when there’s other guests in line behind her ready for dessert. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Haddonfield, NJ

And remember – everyone is going to know it’s all about you. They’ll probably start talking before you have a chance to, telling you how wonderful your ceremony was or how beautiful you look, or generally congratulating you. I’ve always noticed at weddings, the happy couple spends more time nodding and smiling and saying thank you than stirring up conversation. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception / Courtyard Marriott Legacy Ballroom

I don’t have social anxiety, but I’m definitely introverted! I totally wasn’t looking forward to going table to table – and in the end, we actually didn’t have time to do that! We ended up getting swamped with people coming up to us whenever we were out of our seats, and most people sought us out before they left. Really, all you need to do is say ‘thank you for coming’ and respond to whatever they say after that then politely move on with something like ‘I’m so glad you could make it/it was great to see you’ and ‘hope you enjoy the reception’. That’s all you’ll probably have time for. Most of the time, all DH and I were really doing was introducing each other to our friends and family.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

 

I have social anxiety and we didnt do a receiving line. We just served canapes after the ceremony and people came over to US and congratulated us. I am also not a huggy kissy type of person and a receiving line would have been super awkward for me.

I also find attending weddings as a guest with a recieving line an awful ordeal. I hate the waitiing to do the handshake and kiss on the cheek with a few words malarkey!

It was all fine in the end. No dramas, no panic attacks either.

If you do decide to go to tables just use the get out line, thank you so much for coming I will catch up with you a bit later, but I must go and mingle some more. or something like that.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper

I’m totally an introvert. When you’re the bride, you will probably know everyone (or at least know of everyone), so there’s no awkwardness in going up to people to start a conversation. I agree with having a few phrases that you can say to anyone (e. g. Thank you for coming, I hope you have fun, etc.). If there’s a particular feature at your wedding (e. g. photobooth), you can encourage them to go to it. If you run out of stuff to say, tell them that you are going to get more food or drink, and then you can move on. It will be ok!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

At our wedding we stood at the entrance to our wedding breakfast room and said hello and thank you to our guests as they came in. This saved us being “announced” into the room and also gave us the chance to speak to everyone but it was on our terms and they were coming to us.

I will admit that I was just so overwhelmed with the whole day that I very much kept myself to myself and only actively went to speak to a few people (mainly my husband and family) I did speak to others obviously and was happy to do so but I didn’t go to them. This isn’t different to want I’m like in other social situations. Happy to speak to people but they need to come to me (unless I need to talk to them specifically)

 

If I were you I would have as small a wedding as you can. I think this will help. 

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