(Closed) social anxiety as a bride

posted 4 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Commenting to say I feel you. While talking to people doesn’t freak me out, being the center of attention and everyone looking at me is the stuff of nightmares!

I would say a glass of champagne or two could calm your nerves, but I’m guessing that is out. I plan on concentrating on my SO as he is my rock and always relaxes me!   Good luck!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

I too struggle with anxiety and really don’t like being the center of attention.  I opted to elope which for me was the best decision ever.

Do you take medication to treat your anxiety?  Perhaps a doctor can prescribe something like Xanax for your big day or you can have a glass of champagne before arriving at your venue.

Be in the moment, focus on just you and your Fiance and block out all the background noise and distractions.  Deep breaths!

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Oh, I feel you. When my ex-H and I got married, we had no guests. None. There were 2 photographers, a videographer, the resort’s wedding coordinator, the officiant, and the two of us. That was it. And, aside from the part where I picked the wrong groom, it was exactly what I wanted. 

My current BF/probable FH wants about 50-100 people and it already makes me nervous, but I love him and want to give him what he wants. He’s just like your SO – very personable and makes friends easily. He’s good at pushing me out of my comfort zone without overwhelming me, but being the center of attention at a wedding is definitely an entirely different story. 

You have a couple months to keep thinking about coping mechanisms! Is there anything that’s worked in the past? 

Post # 6
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Busy bee

Ditto.

If I had to do it over I’d ask all cameras be turned off for the ceremony, that gave me TONNES of anxiety. And I’d find a way to avoid the traditional bridal entrance. My wedding was only 30 people, but walking down an aisle with all eyes on me nearly gave me a heart attack, not fun!

Post # 7
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18 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Even my tiny ceremony gave me anxiety and I was worried I wouldn’t be able to sleep the night before so my doc prescribed me a low dose of xanax and I have to say it worked wonders. I slept the night before and felt completely present and not anxious on the day of. I read my vows confidently without a hitch and felt really comfortable and in-the-moment with my husband the whole day.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

I feel for you. Anxiety is an awful thing that convinces you it’s going to go horribly even when you know, logically, that’s a lie. 

 

For the first dance, if you’re really worried about all eyes being on you, maybe you could get your parents to join you on the dance floor 30 or so seconds in and encourage others to do the same. That way the focus isn’t on you for the whole song. A friend did this at her wedding and it was really sweet (plus more interesting for the guests rather than watch her and her new husband barely sway for the full 5 minute song they chose). It’s something I might try to convince my boyfriend/soon-to-be fiance to do as although he’s a great dancer, I am quite clunky due to problems with my joints. 

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