Post # 1
I read an interesting article about how to deal with people taking photos at your wedding and uploading them to social media before the wedding is actually over. It says to pick your battles. Tell people to keep the phones and cameras off during the ceremony, and let them have the reception. Sounds fair. But what if you weren’t planning on putting photos on social media yourself due to the fact it may hurt someone’s feelings that wasn’t invited? I, as well as many others, have a lot of mutual friends on these sites. I don’t blast my wedding info on there for this very reason. My wedding is only going to consist of very close family and friends. There are even some family members that aren’t invited, who may assume they are. (I have an aunt and uncle who seem to think they are closer to me than they really are. Very bold people. Showed up to my sisters wedding with both of their kids and their spouses, even though earlier in the day my mother told him that my sister and her husband were not inviting cousins due to space.)
My family is very attached to their smartphones. I love mine, but I don’t need to give every little detail of how my day is going at every minute. How do you politely tell people that photos of the wedding day should be limited? There will be none allowed at the ceremony. It just seems that etiquette has gone out the window and technology has come in.
Post # 2
Hmmm. That’s a good question. I guess I was lucky because only one or two of my guests posted any photos, but I can definitely see how this could be problematic. Unfortunately, short of collecting everyone’s phones and holding them hostage until the end of the night I don’t know how you could stop them. Maybe you could start telling people now that you’d rather they not slap your wedding photos all over social media and hope word gets around?
Post # 3
brendaray2009: there are lots of threads about unplugged weddings. People have had their officiant announce it, post signs, DJ/band can announce, wedding website, programs, etc. This isn’t that hard and it’s becoming popular because of social media these days. Personally, I don’t care and haven’t met anyone that cared when they aren’t invited to someone’s wedding. I know that doesn’t apply for everyone, though.
Post # 4
search for “unplugged wedding” there are tons of cute ways to do this….some people put a blurb in thier program for the ceremony….others have nifty signs ….
might also not hurt to spead the word through your immediate family ahead of time so close family knows ahead of time……….
Post # 5
You can tell people all you want but they may still do it. I’d change my facebook settings so any tags of you would have to be approved before it shows up in your timeline. At least you can have control over what your page looks like. If you are really concerned then go totally unplugged.
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
Honestly I think keeping your wedding 100% off social media is a lost cause, unless you have a bunch of Luddites for friends and family. People understand just because you’re Facebook friends, that doesn’t mean you automatically get a wedding invite.
We had our officiant plus a sign announce our no-cameras ceremony, and it went really smoothly.
Post # 7
I really dont think you can ask people to not bring their cameras or turn stuff off. Its just the day and age we live in.
But you can change the privacy settings on your own social media so that people cant see pictures your tagged in. But people will find a way to get offended.
I’m not sure where this entitled attitude came to someone elses wedding. But those people can get over it. If they aren’t invited, they can suck it up.
Post # 8
I think oversharing is the most valid reason of why to call for unplugged wedding (not the often metioned “I want you to be with us at the moment”). Mine was actually very successful – we just put note in wedding program with criscrossed social media icons and polite request not to share pictures of us and other guests (selfies – as many as you like). I have to admit, though, that most of guests were not such gadget addicts, and most of them have learned not to display their personal photos in completely public galleries as well. I kept sharing with my weddings in social media to minimum too, just for privacy.
OP, if you have serious concerns, maybe it’s worth to send an mass e-mail to your most sharing-loving guests and politely explain that you don’t want your wedding photos to be posted in social media? If I would receive such message, I would definitely respect that.
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017
I asked my family not to take photos so that 1. they could be in the moment 2. their cameras sucked and wouldn’t take good photos anyway 3. my family’d be in many professional photos and in the video a lot, and I didn’t want them being shown using their camera/on their phone all the time. My family totally agreed!
Of the in-Laws, DH’s brother got some good shots with his pro camera, so I’m glad, and everyone else was just immersed in our wedding 😀
As for normal guests, I let them do their own thing, and as it turned out, noone had uploaded anything to fb until that night. But if it had been during the wedding, I wouldn’t have been offended! As a pp said, this is the day and age we live in.
Post # 10
- Wedding: May 2014 - Smithfield Center
I wanted pictures of everyone having a good time, so we definitely did not want an unplugged wedding. I love seeing everyone’s different angles of the ceremony and reception – just more pics of us in our lovely attire. That said, if you don’t want people to take pictures and such, there’s a ton of cute unplugged signs on Pinterest/etsy you could use. Just try to take care of feelings and note that no matter what you do, people will find a way to do what they want.
Post # 11
Pictures or not, people will eventually know they weren’t invited so I don’t understand why people would ask guests not to post pictures just to avoid hurt feelings.
We just had a note in our program that asked guests to refrain from flash photography and that seemed to work well.