Post # 1
I get a bit frustrated with these websites and information boards that tell me that 125 if what I “should” weight. If I weighed 125 lbs, I’d look like a damn toothpick. Been there before, in like 9th grade. (Not saying there is anything wrong with weighing 125, I, personally, would just look unhealthy). I weigh 150 lbs and I am 5’5. I feel that I would be comfortable with losing about 10-15 lbs, but down to 125 is just not necessary. Anybody else get bothered about what society says you “should” weight? I just want to look and FEEL (and be :)) healthy!
What would be/is your ideal weight? Is it what “society” says you should weigh?
Post # 3
@mmm – hey, we’re height/weight twins! Haha. I know, I was 120 when I was still “growing” in high school. My ideal weight would be 130-135… I gained a lot of weight in college and then more with a very stressful job the year before last, and it hasn’t come off yet, but I’m working on being healthier.
Post # 4
I think there are definitely skewed #’s. I mean, my size 6 jeans are big on me – yet according to my BMI I am over-weight – how does that make sense?
I did gain 20 pounds after starting a desk job so I know how I look at 125-130 and it was definitely thin – a little more curves couldnt hurt – but now I have them and am worried how I will look in my dress!
Post # 5
I feel ya. When I was in hs I was 5’3″ and 126 and I was really thin. I’m 5’6″ now, and I think 140-150 would be perfect for me.
Post # 6
I truly don’t think “weight” matters…I think that if you’re working out and eating healthily most of the time, you will weight a healthy weight automatically! (most times! 🙂 I’m 5’5″ and 125, but not everyone is made the same! Some people are bigger boned, some are smaller. It just depends! 🙂
Post # 7
I get what you are saying. Society is so obsessed with weight and being a “perfect” weight in society is soooo different from what is healthy. My best friend is obsessed with her weight and determined that she is too “fat” she’s about 5’7 and 125llbs, and she’s sooo skinny. It’s because she does some modeling, so society (and the modeling sub-culture) says she should be thinner, but in reality she could stand to put on a few pounds.
I just went to a trainer and I told him I wanted to go down to 135 (I’m 5’10”) because everyone around me makes me feel so much bigger. He told me absolutely not to loose any weight, I should focus on trading in 7llbs of fat for 7llbs of muscle if I want to look more toned.
Post # 8
Im actually at the other end of this spectrum…I am 5’9 and i currently weigh 130. My ideal weight for my height is 150. I have really small bones and everything about me is just really long and narrow…and no one tells me I look unhealthy by any means. I think that they just dont take in consideration peoples genetic makeup, bone structure, etc. I think that you know what weight you need to be at and that is healthy for you…a lot more than the people that create the “ideal weight” guidelines.
Post # 9
I do think the “healthy weight” recommendations are weird… they don’t account for body type, build, or whatever. I’m 5’8″ and weigh +/- 115-120. My “healthy weight” is 145. I absolutely disagree. I feel healthiest and at my best at 118 or so. I have a very small frame, so even 145 on me would be heavy.
Post # 10
I’m 5’1″ and 138 pounds. A few months ago, I made it down to 130, and my fiance was alarmed by how skinny I looked. Nevermind that 130 is *just barely* within the normal weight range for my height based on BMI. At 130, I was wearing a size 4. To be right smack within the normal range, I would need to get down to 115. Based on my bone structure, I would look emaciated if my weight got that low. I used to be in the Army, and at my absolute lowest adult body weight, I was 120. I would never want to weigh less than that. The BMI scale can bite me.
Post # 11
Hello, personal trainer/nutritional consultant here!
BMI scales are bunk, they don’t account for muscle/lean mass vs fat.
Body fat measurements are the real indicator.
Post # 12
I think I heard that the healthy weight calculations were based on men, not women so they aren’t right for a woman. Especially since women are supposed to carry a bit more in fat stores than men for childbearing etc.
Post # 13
Redherring, you sound like me! I also used to be in the Army, but my lowest weight was 123 haha. Even then, I didn’t look “thin” at all, though I was pretty well toned. I am just built… thick, I guess? I am 5’2 (and a half!!!), and currently 145ish. I did put weight on this year that I am trying to take off, but when I was 135, I was a size 4, and I had to buy small or x-small shirts already! I realize that this is partly due to “vanity sizing,” but what next? I do know that I need to lose weight and get more toned presently because it is mostly fat weight and not muscle weight, and I have a huge looming family history of heart disease.
Post # 14
Yeah, I used to weigh that. Then I gained muscle weight – clothes still fit the same, but I’m a a pair of boots away from “overweight.” Which, um… yeah, at my size? Being anywhere in the lower half of the weight range would mean muscle/bone (!!!) loss. I can see how that total weight is healthy for other people, but for me it would mean serious erosion of lean mass and health issues. FWIW, I don’t have an ideal weight. I try not to weight myself, because of prior eating issues and also because it’s hard to keep straight that with goals of being able to do 100 push-ups or a few pull-ups in a row, weight gain often means muscle gain means good things.
Those numbers are based on a mathematician’s estimate of how weight and height develop together in the average person. They actually have no bearing on diagnosis and it SAYS SO in the definition. There are LOTS of people – especially active ones, people with large frames, large chests, etc etc etc – for whom they’re pretty irrelevant.
Post # 15
I think it’s probably frustrating on either side of the BMI lines. I have a fast metabolism and a very small frame (as did my mom). I’ve gotten 3-4 comments from women in their 50’s or 60’s lately about how I’ll just blow away, or doubting that I eat. I truly do not have an eating disorder, I just have a small frame. I wish people would keep their comments to themselves. Just because we all don’t look alike doesn’t mean we’re not healthy.
Post # 16
You guys that are 5’8″ – 5’11” and weigh less than 140 had better be models or something! I’m 5’9″ and weigh 165, so I have some weight to lose..but I think the overall message here is that as long as you feel healthy, who gives a crap about what “society” thinks you should weigh. I find that listening to your friends and family about your looks is so much better than looking at your BMI, b/c each person is unique!