Post # 1
Normally, I’m the Bee that likes to help other people figure out what to say and how to say it. Now, I need help. I assume at some point during my wedding (either rehearsal dinner or reception) I will be expected to give a speech. And I don’t have any idea where to start, what to say, who to thank. All I can think about is the stuff I DON’T want to say. Can anybody help?
Oh, and yes public speaking is quite an integral part of my profession. I’m not nervous. I’m just confused.
I googled around and most sites say “thank your parents, thank everyone for coming, say something nice about your husband and have a seat.”
1. I don’t have anything terribly positive to say about my parents at the moment. They’ve decided to attend the wedding, but that’s the only thing resembling support that they’ve given my fiance or me. I don’t want to do a sticky sweet homage to them because it will be a complete lie. They fed and clothed me until I was 18, but does one thank one’s parents for this in a wedding speech? IDK
2. Are you supposed to thank guests individually for the things they’ve done to help? Or just say a general “thanks everybody!”
Post # 3
@Overjoyed: I wouldn’t thank every single person of give your parents a heartfelt thank you that you don’t mean – it won’t come across as sincere. I’d keep it short and sweet because no one likes speeches at a wedding. Funny if possible, but not necessary. I’d focus it more on your FI and how you are thankful everyone came to share the moment with you. Keep it generic so you don’t forget someone and offend them.
Post # 4
I would just thank everyone for coming, then if you have something specific you want to highlight I’d do that with the individual guests – not in your speech.
I hate public speaking and so I will not be doing a speech at my wedding. Nope. My wedding, my way, haha. Its small though so I’m quite confident that I’ll be able to talk to and thank each guest individually.
Post # 5
I didn’t give a speech. nobody likes them anyway!
Post # 6
no speech for me either! more time to dance!
Post # 7
Our “planned” speech:
Thank you all so much for coming and sharing in such a wonderful day. Everyone of you have made this a day we will never forget. Both FI and I have dreamed of this day since we have been engaged, and now that we are finally here, we are overwhelmed with the amount of love in this room.
FI and I would espeically like to give thanks for all those in our bridal party and our immediate families who have helped create this day with us. There are so many we want to give our heartfelt thanks to, so please let us toast to them. Please raise your glasses to the X and Y family and friends!
Post # 8
@Overjoyed: You could say something like:
“Thank all of you for coming here today! Whether you’ve made it here from XX or from XX or from just across town, you are all here because you’ve played an important part in both of our lives. Cheers to all of you!”
My husband gave a general speech thanking our guests along these lines. Thanking individual guests sounds a bit rambling, like an awards show speech. I gave a toast thanking both sets of parents.
Post # 9
@ohmybears48: that’s good business. Thanks for sharing!
Post # 10
I also didn’t give a speech. My DH did a nice thank you / toast at our rehearsal dinner, but I didn’t want to say anything, so I just stood next to him when he toasted.
Post # 11
we gave no speech. no one seemed offended.